Actually would want to have a child who is obedient and disciplined. Discipline means the child has a responsibility with what he does, and is able to follow what we say well. but not discipline in children is not an easy matter. Parents need to have good moves so that children can easily learn what discipline means because children may not be disciplined, not because the child argues, but because the child does not understand what an unauthorized discipline is.
Teaching Discipline is actually a long and not a very successful education. It takes hard work also from the side of parents who teach discipline. When a child is undisciplined, often the child is blamed, while the parent does not want to self-correct, whether the person is teaching the discipline or not. The point of discipline is hard work between children and parents. Just to share knowledge in the month of Ramadan, I include some important things to teach children to discipline.
1.Parents must be firm
One of the most common parents' weaknesses is the lack of assertiveness of the parents. His parents name, when he saw his son whining or crying, sometimes feel unbearable, so that initially firm, soft. Parental uncertainty can be used as a weapon for children to undermine established rules. The child will feel that his or her parents can be softened by his crying, and his whining. Once a parent behaves decisively, then discipline education is done. 2. The elderly do not accept compromise.
2.Provide Gifts for children to be motivated
In educating children's discipline, parents also need capital. This means that the capital is needed to give a gift for the child when the child is doing good discipline behavior. gifts do not always have to be expensive, it could be a gift of praise and flattery that motivates the child to repeat and reinforce his disciplinary behavior. Usually a reward will be effective if indeed the gift is something that is expected or desired by the child. the gift must be concrete, that is, if it has promised to give a gift, parents should keep his promise. Never lie with a promise to give a gift, but after the child is disciplined, the gift is not given.
3.If the punishment, must be adjusted to the child's condition
When children perform undisciplined behavior, parents also must firmly give punishment. Penalties must be adjusted to the child's condition. do not give too much punishment and do not give too light a punishment because it will not give a deterrent effect. Rate the penalty and age of the child.
4.Open the discussion room with the child to express his objection
If the child is too heavy with the punishment or rules set, the parent should provide a discussion room for the child to express his objection. Do not ignore the child's right to object to the rules. Discussion rooms should be used to open a chat with a child, and listen to the child's reason for objecting to the rule. If the reason is reasonable enough, it would not hurt to give up a little. But if the reason is merely artificial, the parent must remain firmly reject it with a polite sentence.
5.Avoid corporal punishment
Important penalties are awarded every time a child commits an offense. Punishment works so that the child thinks and will not repeat his mistake again in the future. But that needs to be considered in educating the discipline, parents are forbidden to give punishment in the form of corporal punishment such as punching, slapping, throwing, kicking, and so forth. Physical punishment will impact trauma for children and can hurt children. children will also feel discouraged when physically punished and will damage the child's motivation to correct his mistakes.
6.Parents should be role models
The most difficult for parents in educating the discipline is to be an example or role model for their child. Parents feel that they are wrong and not good, but children are required to be good, while parents do not set a good example for their children. often we see parents forbid their children to smoke, while parents are active smokers. Parents ask their children to pray, but parents rarely practice prayers. Orantua tells his son to get up early and take a shower in the morning, but his parents get up late and always laze around. Parents are everyday examples that children can imitate, so parents should be good examples for their children.
Conclusion
the sixth above is a way that can be done to educate children's discipline. the key to success is in parents and children. both must work together in the success of the goal. If the seven things are implemented, God willing we will be able to educate children not only discipline but children can become responsible and can grow into an independent person.
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