Some days can be a true test of one鈥檚 strength and good countenance. Often the test comes because of other people鈥檚 behaviour. It is usually due to poor communication or the need to be right or to prove a point. When this happens, one might wonder why things need to be this way and we wish people could change. However, we all know by now that we cannot change others. People will be themselves and actually they need to be themselves. It is part of being human.
We (the victims) are human too and have feelings which we want to express. However,
- Sometimes we are at a loss for words (flabbergasted) and don't know what to say at that moment.
- Other times, we feel driven to have our say because it feels like the right thing to do; or
- We restrain ourselves and say nothing because we are afraid of repercussions.
We should follow our gut instincts. It is a good guide most often.
We know that we are in charge of ourselves and are only in control of our own behaviours. What matters is how we react to any given situation, since we are in control of that too. As adults, we will also know when it is better to take a step back - to evaluate and think - especially when we become upset.
Nowadays, we are affected not only by occurrences in our offline life but also by our online interactions. Assessing upsetting situations before acting/reacting or responding is sound judgement - irrespective of the medium. If we can leave the situation by walking away or closing our computers - that could be a good decision.
On such days - we need to break the momentum of whatever is happening.
- Take a breather literally. Take deep breaths - repeat several times
- Go for a walk - a change of scenery will do a lot of good
- Think of nice things - whatever makes you happy or laugh
- Call or text someone who knows you well - a loved one or good friend can help with different point of view
- Journal or blog about it - there is also a rant and complain community here on Hive 馃榾
- Enjoy your favourite drink - just the way you like it and in your favourite cup
- Listen to your favourite music - do not forget to sing and/or get up and dance
- Go to the gym - doing exercise increases happiness hormones
- Think of something to be grateful about - that will certainly change your mindset and perspective
Remember nothing lasts forever.
It is very normal to have days that are not the best. Although they are annoying - it is just a part of life. There are always lessons to be learnt from these days. It might not seem like it at the time though. As they saying goes -
All photos are my own - "autumn in the park - Amsterdam".