While I was in Primary school, I do feel inferior to my peers not because I wasn't brought up in a loving family or couldn't have those things my peers has but because I'm having improper dental growth this makes me looks different among them. One of my incisors wasn't properly aligned, it was somehow projected which affected my lips closure, so some of my mates do make jest of me at any slight provocation.
My parents told me I was actually taking for medical consultations and the doctor told them nothing can be done at that moment cause I was too young for correction. So he advised them to bring me for a correction once I'm like 12-15 years. There was nothing my family could do then to tell me to be patience till I'm old enough for a removal and also to fight for myself whenever people abuse me.
But Once I have any issue with anybody the only thing I hear is; "see her teeth like that of an animal and some will even go to the extent of saying my teeth will later grew longer for my lips to cover". All those abuses affected me a lot and it resulted in low self esteem. It also prevented me from interacting with some of my peers because I wouldn't want to do anything that will annoyed them.
But I do report to my Mom and elder sis, and my sis usually fight back for me. My sis always tell me to be free once I'm in the midst of my classmates and fight back if anyone abuses me. But I told her I can't accept the challenge and that it will lead to more abuse and hatred. So during my early primary school days I would say I was in the dark cause of my dental and the only group of people I majorly interact with was my family members.
On a particular day while I was in Primary 4, I overcame this inferiority complex. I was provoked and I beat up a classmate for showing me an image inside one of our art textbook that it looks like me. Luckily for me we didn't have a full class we were just 5, so I thought of a way to teach the girl a lesson, I retaliated angrily and gave her the beating of her life. Those in class were amazed that I confronted someone for the first time and started begging me to leave the girl but I didn't till a senior came and separate us.
After the beating incident, I became free of low self esteem and I was bold enough to defend myself in any situation. I even told my parents that they should wait till I'm through with secondary school for the teeth correction, my parents thought I was joking but I insisted that I'm not going for a removal till after secondary school and they accepted. They were very happy that I've grown to love who I am and can also speak up for myself.
Since then I became fearless and don't care of what people say, I smile at anything at any time without minding what people would say. But when I finished secondary school I went for a removal which help my dental alignment to what I have now.
From my experience, I learnt that it's a very terrible thing to compare yourself with others. No matter how people see you, it's the way you see yourself that matters. You have to appreciate and as well love yourself. Then know that you are unique in your own way.
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