Most times when I see the oldies celebrating wonderful wedding anniversaries with the love of their lives, I wonder where my generation got it wrong. Not that those oldies are angels or perfect beings, but they are able to manage themselves and settle their differences.
I do sit down and think deeply about what could be the cause of the current marital crisis happening in the world today and I can't get a reasonable answer.
Because how on earth will someone whom you cherished like your life during courtship, someone you have bestowed beautiful names like treasure, armour, joy giver, sunshine and what a view will later become your worst nightmare.....like how come? 😭
Imagine someone whom you have agreed to spend the rest of your life with and within the twinkle of an eye, the sunshine becomes dimmed to the extent that the lasting solution to the problem is separation; some marriages will even lead to physical assault before dissolution.......hmmmmm this is mysterious to me!
In the world today, people marry for the slightest reason, some get attracted and marry themselves because of a social media comment or post that they made, some marry for just procreation, some marry because of height or size while some for assets. There are numerous silly reasons why people end up in marriage and I think majority of it end up disastrously.
It saddens me to see how innocent children suffered both mentally and emotionally all because of their parents separation. When true love fades then the fruit of that love will suffer.
It's like an adage that says when two elephants fight the grass suffers......the elephants are the parents while the grass is the child/ren. Once there is a problem in the home, the fruit of that union tends to suffer.
A scenario happened in my family some time ago, a lady married my cousin just because she wanted just a child, I mean just one child. She pretended throughout their courtship and this hurts my feelings because how on earth will you as a lady have such a thing in mind and you don't dim it fit to discuss with your partner before marriage, it's absurd!
This lady was actually loved by all of us in the family but we never knew she was a devil in disguise. She gave birth for my cousin in the first two years of their marriage and problem started. She insisted she only wanted a child and started an irritating attitude towards my cousin and almost everyone of us. She's always complaining and nag about everything my cousin does.
In short, the whole problem led them to the State welfare department which led to the legal dissolution of their marriage. The only Child she had for my Cousin is now left in her custody all because my Cousin doesn't have the legal right on the little girl for now because she isn't of age.
The day the little girl was to be giving to her Mom, she cried her heart out all because she wanted to be with her Dad and not her Mom. We all felt the girl's pain but there is nothing we can do for now.
With this and many other divorce saga I've seen and heard about, I think the mental health of the Children is more important than that of their parents. The poor kids suffered the more before they later catch up with life. To me, couples are adults who should be able to manage their differences with their partner without letting their children in their problem.
But the case nowadays is quite different, we even open ourselves freely to the toxic social media platforms and added more pain to the mental and emotional trauma of our young kids.
I just hope my generation will be healed of this viral Divorce saga because it's making some of us that are yet to be married to be doubting if true love really exist!
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