I believe almost everyone on earth has been through one degree of hurting or the other. We have all been hurt either by loved ones, family members, friends, neighbours, colleagues etc and that particular thing that the fellow had done pained us to our bone marrow.
The truth is that we also have one way or the other wrong others either knowingly or not, because no matter how careful we are not to wrong or to be wronged, it will still happen, so that's where forgiveness comes in.
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To say the truth, Forgiveness is hard, it's not easy at all, it's easy to advise someone to forgive others whatever pain they might have experienced until we are the one expected to forgive a person that has wrong us then we will have the understanding of how painful it is to let go of the pain and hurts.
As hard as forgiveness is, we have to forgive those who wronged us so as to move on with life. Then forget is now added to forgiveness again; "Forgive and Forget"......hmmmmm
To my understanding, Forgetting is extremely hard. There are some wrong deeds that can be done to someone that is so critical that it takes the grace of God and intervention of counselors to help the people overcome such life trauma.
For instance, how can you advise a lady who has dedicated all her life to a relationship of more than five years to forgive and forget when the man who claimed to love her started misbehaving and she doesn't seem bothered at first because she loved him.
Then one morning he just called her that he doesn't see any growth and development, likewise future in their relationship and he wants them to call it quit. At first, she thought it was a joke, as weeks passed the reality was done on her that the relationship is over.
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Now tell me, even if she was able to forgive and let go of the relationship, can she forget? Absolutely NO! The agony is for a lifetime, from time to time the pain will still cross her mind, she only forgives to move on with her life and also for her heart to be at peace, not forgetting because it has already registered in her memory for life.
For me, just because I forgive someone doesn't mean that I forget, I only forgive to ease my mind and release them from my heart. Forgetting is like not remembering a thing again at all, when I'm not God who erases all wrongs...... so far I'm a human being, the pain will still cross my mind, can't forget at all! I have just moved on with positive energy but forgetting means maybe an accident occurs and there is a memory loss.
Forgiveness is about releasing the burden not erasing the past wrongdoings. The memories still linger, we all just need to try our best not to fall in such kind of hurtful situations again so as not to have another hurtful experience.
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