I don't think in either one way or the other a living being has not been stereotyped before, I doubt it. We all have been talked about or described either in a negative or positive way. Some people are even stereotyping others as I'm writing this blog...lolz... that's life.
We can't run away from such, we will continue to live with it and I've counted it as part of life's experience. I've been subjected to some stereotypes and today I will share a few with you.
Firstly most people think any lady that is fair in complexion is Promiscuous no matter your tribe, which I'm among them.
I don't know where this particular mentality comes from, but I think it is a general belief in the heart of black people.
They say we are attractive and we can use the attractiveness to get whatever we want anytime any day. Some even go to the extent that we can hypnotize men both single and married with our complexion.
A neighbour had jokingly told me that I can't tell him that I'm broke (not having money) because he knew I will have rich guys at my disposal. He said he knows numerous guys will be fluxing around me because of my look, so I have excess money.
He categorically said, had it been he had a sister that's fair like me, he can't be giving her money because he knows his sister will be silently richer than him.......see the rubbish mentality
I tried my best to let him understand that not all of us are flirting but he was adamant. When I got tired I was just smiling at whatever he was saying because I knew nothing could change his mind.
But how on earth will I explain to people that can and as well can't face me but speak at my back that whatever they might have assumed in their mind about me isn't true?
This inappropriate assumption about us isn't fair at all, but we can't do anything about it than to live right to prove to those saying the rubbish that we can live right without being Promiscuous.
Secondly, some people think I'm arrogant simply because I don't mingle with lots of people.
Among my colleagues, I only have a close pal while others are just mere workplace buddies no sting attached at all.
People don't know I'm not an everybody person, I love minding my business and don't want to interfere at all in matters that don't concern me. They don't know my natural being loves to be with a small circle of friends so that I will be able to mingle very well.
I try to study people to know if they are those I will love to be with. So any large gathering isn't convenient for me, I try my best to avoid being in the midst of crowds.
But people count my nature as arrogance, some even say the way I usually turn down invitations shows excessive pride while others say even if I'm in an event the way I usually carry myself is full of pride that I should work on myself so that I won't be isolated by others in the nearest future......please on top wetin nah.☹️
It just so disheartening that different negative opinions are been said here and there without one been able to stop it. But who are mine to change people's mindset? they can think or say whatever they like in as much it doesn't affect my existence or decrease my salary.
So far I'm true to myself, comments from people are secondary. I've chosen to ignore all the bad comments and embrace my true self, I live my life the best way I can!
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