As soon as he came to write something about his mother, the poet Kalidas Roy Bayazid Bostami's remarkable picture of motherly devotion in his childhood poem 'Matribhakti' floated on the screen of his mind.
A child who stays up all night waiting for his mother to wake up with a glass of water in his hand, such a scene is very rare in reality! We have also read the story of Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar swimming on the stormy Damoda, risking his life on the stormy night, just to reach his sick mother. That is why they are different from the other ten. This is possible for them, the example they have left before us, in fact, the duty of the child for the mother, devotion should be the same. But what do we see around us? Where is the mother's place in our society? The role of the mother in the family, the contribution that the mother receives from the children in return? Nowadays, with a post on Facebook on Mother's Day, we think our responsibility is over. I read a lot of cruel news about insulting my mother in the newspapers nowadays, which is also unworthy of condemnation. Advertising Advertising Pictures: Collected Time Has Changed! There has been a change in our way of life for the needs of life. We have moved away from the idea of a joint family to a nuclear family. Where older parents often feel overwhelmed. In most cases, the reality is that we are deprived of the opportunity to take proper care of our parents. Again, in many cases we lack sufficient goodwill. Older parents are in many cases backdated, old fashioned in our way of thinking and living. Generation Gap, Modernity, Smartness and Helpless Mothers also become child status concerns in today's society. Unfortunately, the winds of change in our personal lives have not blown in the same way in the life of the society as well as in the rules and regulations of the state. The state does not take any responsibility for the health and well-being of our senior citizens. In fact, according to our social norms, it is an unwritten custom that in old age parents will be in charge of the child. Because, our parents take all the responsibility to establish their life including education of their children with their wealth, property and money. In return, in old age, the responsibility of the parents falls on the child. So the state has no liability here. This is an unwritten agreement of our social system. Western family customs, way of life is different from ours. As soon as the child reaches the age of eighteen, they live an independent life. They earn their own living, they are different with their boyfriends and girlfriends, that is the custom. In some cases, even after the age of 18, the parents provide financial support to the child, but they never take full responsibility. Children have similar relationships with their parents, but in old age they do not take care of them. That is the responsibility of the state. The reality is that in a Western family the distance between the child and the parent is created due to the fact that one day the mother and child spend some time together to meet the mother, eat out, buy gifts for the mother, write a card and express gratitude to the mother. Children on this day. Mother's Day is celebrated through a number of festivals. Mother's Day is also celebrated loudly in Bangladesh. At least the excitement surrounding Mother's Day on social media is largely a storm. I think the show off competition is going on. In fact, it is a matter of concern how much time these post donors give to their mother at home, how much they behave responsibly, how much they respect her. In the society of Bangladesh, Mother's Day seems to be a bit awkward, copy-paste culture. In the country, mothers live with their children, mothers who do not have sons live with their daughters. The mother has more than one son, she lives in the house of different sons by dividing the month. This is the traditional rule of our society. This is how our mothers live in old age. But what do we know, how are the mothers of this part or the mothers of single children in the world of boys? In the last age of life, how much do you live with attainment, happiness, peace? Or do they spend time in disrespect, disrespect, being a remnant of the son's family? Do you have to go very far to know the news? There are many children near us who do not even talk to their mother day after day from under one roof. When my mother is sick, I don't even look at her to see if she is playing or not. Because they are busy, lack of time. Or talking to a backdated mother does not pet them. Photo: What is the condition and position of our mothers in the collected family, they have also come up in various works of art and literature. The form of mother depicted in the famous poet Humayun Azad's poem 'Our Mother' is in fact the most famous form of mother in our country. He said, ‘In front of my father, my mother looked very insignificant, so my mother would not even think of telling you.’ And mothers are very weak, tender! He said, ‘Mother was the petal of the forest flower, mother was the milk rice, mother was the paddy field.’ This is the eternal character of the mothers of our society. Mothers are eternally tender, eternally ill, representative of the eternally weak. In the poem I remember in Rabindranath's poem 'Mone Pada', the mother smells like Pujo, the mother's face floats in the memory of the poet with the morning dew on Ashwin's hyacinth. In fact, mothers used to dedicate their lives to worship, family, children, husband, mother-in-law and mother-in-law. The poet has no more memories of his mother. This is a common picture of our rural Bengali mothers.
Poet Shamsur Rahman wrote in his poem 'Kabhi Amar Maake' that his mother may never have dared to write a song for fear of the elders. Or even when she came to her husband's house, she never heard him sing in the space of washing dishes, tying her hair and sewing.
In Kazi Nazrul Islam's poem 'Mother', he says, Parana lying on her mother's lap. Forget all the pain in mother's cold lap and fill mother's chest with so much caress. He also fasts more than the face of a child. Why isn't she the mother? '
On this Mother's Day, where Western ideas originated, let's see what was the perception of the mother of some special personalities of the West?
‘You give me an educated mother, I will give you an educated nation .’— Napoleon Bonaparte
"All the achievements of my life are the result of the moral, intellectual, and physical education I received from him." - George Washington
"There's a picture of my mother on the wall in my living room, because she's the biggest attraction to me." - Ellen de Generis
"Mothers have to think twice about something - once for their child and once for themselves." - Sophia Loren
"My mom thinks I'm the best, and mom thinks I'm the best." - Diego Maradona
"Whoever has a mother is not poor." - Abraham Lincoln
‘My mother is wonderful and another name for me.’ - Michael Jackson
"Mom is the best cheerleader in life, who doesn't need a uniform." - Rachel Goodrich
Looking at the above statements, I see that these famous personalities of the West have presented their mother with emphasis on knowledge, wisdom, contribution and intelligence. Because, they have got that honor and dignity of their mother in family and life. Napoleon's famous statement about the mother clearly shows their elevated position towards the mother.
On the other hand, in the writings of everyone starting from Rabindranath, the weak, self-forgetful, selfless character of our mothers has come to the fore. Because, our society has taught, mother will be selfless, devoted to the family and children. Behind this contradictory feature of society, there is a clear character of deprivation of mother. Silent torture has kept the exhausted face of the mother trapped in a high-ranking society.
We also forgot that mother has a great badge in this character, mother is also a human being! He also has anger, pride, happiness and sorrow, hunger and thirst, human and biological needs. In our society, there is no end to the number of child widows who have sacrificed. Many widows and divorced women do not remarry looking at the child's face. There are many mothers who endure the injustice of their husbands for the rest of their lives because of their children. The mother herself does not want to think of her own separate being for fear of slander. This cultural practice of our society has not made mothers human, it has only made helpless women helpless.
So in a country where women are not human beings, there is no reason for mothers to be honorable. Women will never be entitled to dignity if the state cannot reduce gender inequality in the society.
We blindly imitate many things in the West, at the same time we think that our position as a nation is much higher. We are also proud of our culture. I also think that our family tradition, mutual bond is very strong. In fact, there are many human values in the Western social system, from which we can learn a lot.
Mom is just ‘mother’, not woman!
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Western society has woman-friendly laws. The law is also in favor of women in case of divorce. The responsibility of the child is not the responsibility of the mother alone, but the responsibility of the state and the state provides financial benefits for the single mother much more. Similarly, in the establishment of equality between men and women, in the elimination of inequalities, in family disputes, in family law, women have been defined as more dignified and beneficiaries. In this, the status and position of women in the society is already of high status.
Our society faces direct and indirect humiliation of women. Male and female subordinates; This belief is ingrained in the minds of the patriarchy. The wife of one man is the same woman as the mother of another man. When we talk about love to the mother, we talk about the paradise of the child under the feet of the mother, in the same way we do not teach the child that there is heaven under the feet of the mother of the child. Children in the family do not learn to respect mother and wife. Dad never sees his mother respect him. There is no tradition of respecting women anywhere in educational institutions, offices and courts.
In a society where women and girls are neglected and abused; Girls are witnessing sexual abuse, rape, oppression, violence and all kinds of oppression and cruelty, in that society ‘Mother’s Day’ is just ridiculous. Dissatisfaction and disrespect towards women is spread everywhere with vulgar misogynistic statements in Waz mahfil. In other words, women are taught disrespect there. The question is, who are these women? Mao is not a woman? Or women are not the mother race?
Mother is not just mother. She is also a woman. The inferior status of women in the society must be eliminated. Strict rules need to be followed in formulating and enforcing women friendly laws. To stop all discriminatory practices against women, the state has to take and implement programs on its own initiative. Introduce state-of-the-art care and housing for senior citizens at the initiative of the state. At the beginning of the corporate trade, the mother has to be brought out of the womb of the woman without getting bogged down in the hustle and bustle of the imported Mother's Day. If mother really wants to give human dignity, she must first be trained to respect women. If the contribution of women in the family and society is established, the contribution of the mother will undoubtedly be recognized.
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