Most people have been in bad relationships at some point of their lives, I also had a bad patch in my life. Somehow I came out of it successfully but not completely intact. I have been scared forever and I can never be as trusting as I was before.
People eventually get out of their bad pasts and gradually heal too but when we think about forgiving the people who made you suffer, it seems a hard task.
Forgiving someone doesn't mean that we can take them back and repeat the mistakes of past. But it means freeing oneself from the bitterness and being light hearted.
Once you forgive someone you stop hating them. Definitely it doesn't mean you can take them back but it means you no longer carry the burden of the past.
It means moving on to the next phase of your life. Giving yourself a chance to grow and start something new in your life, whether it is a new relationship or new start in life.
It was hard for me to forgive the man who stole many years of my life. I was miserable and mentally disturbed during those days. I felt if I forgive that means he won't get punished or he won't ever realise what he did to me and my kids.
I listened to many videos online where people were explaining how good it could be for your own peace of mind. Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting the wrong done to you. I wanted to lessen the burden and wanted to stop hating someone which was impacting negatively on my life.
I thought of giving it a try. And one day I just forgive him! I forgive myself for enduring all the pain. I forgave everyone in that relationship. It doesn't mean I went to them and said I am forgiving you or announcing that now you all are forgiven. That is the reason my life was wasted and I had to suffer a lot.
I just forgave them in my mind. I freed my mind from all the negative energy and space it was taking. I freed up my mind and it was freeing yourself from unwanted data and viruses. Giving yourself a new life, a new chance in life to be happy.
Since then I am free of all the pains and I don't wish them to suffer as they made me suffer. I know they will eventually but now it's none of my business. I stopped caring about bad people. Stopped keep thinking and waiting for their suffering to start.
I think of myself! My life is more productive. I have started a new career and am doing well in it. I have other things to worry about. Where to admit my son in university. Where to go for next vacation. What is in fashion this year. Yes, that's what forgiving did to me.
I am happier and hopeful. You should also forgive the people who made your lives difficult. It's not for them but it's for you. Stay happy
