"When the hell did it become so offensive to speak directly what you feel and mean?"

Perhaps it's always been the case. Personally I'd rather hear it, even if it initially makes me feel a bit upset, so that I can process it and move forward, but this doesn't seem to be the case with many people.

Autism is a confusing label it seems. I keep reading that they are changing the parameters of where the diagnosis sits and even read recently that they're wanting to remove aspergers from the autism spectrum. It's like they're chasing their tails. I guess initially autism brought to mind the extreme type which manifests in a way that makes it hard for them to function in day to day life without assistance. Could this be why it has such negative connotations?

There seems to be a plethora of labels and diagnoses for autism spectrum "disorders", but the fact is we are all just people with different ways of handling the world we live in. Yet every time that varies from the social "norm" it's scrutinised as a bad thing. If it's not hurting anyone else, why?