Nobody is perfect, we all have our flaws and we don't really expect our men to come without baggage. We meet a guy and he is perfect in every way except for one big thing, we don't give up on him though, at first we try to completely ignore it but who are we kidding??? Then we do exactly what we are told never to do in a relationship, WE TRY TO CHANGE HIM and we try to convince ourselves that he will eventually change. I admit they do budge on somethings..
Men are creatures of habit and embarking on a journey to change them will be the biggest challenge you ever undertake.. It's not impossible to change them, like our mothers will say, keep praying he will change (goodluck)
You are courting an abusive man and he has showed you his talent of abuse for years and you think when he is married to you he will change, my sister i wish you the best...
He was a chronic womanizer during courtship and you married him nevertheless and now you are complaining to every tom, dick and harry you see trailing and following him up and down, my sister u wee get BP....
He has a good job and barely gives you money for upkeeps or your basic needs, as our people will call it "aka aradite" and you wee now still go the market and use your small money and cook assorted soup and stock the house for him probably because you luv and want to mk him happy and comfortable or because you are really desperate to get married, and when he marries you, think he will change, as as how naa???
He will never divorce his beer, men and beer have a deep holy connection that no wine will ever break, he might drink everything but beer is where his heart lies. Live with that...
Even if you are super model hot, he will always look at other women, he may no lust after them but checking them out is what he will always do..
The problem is that women think he will change, he won't. Marry what you can take not what you can change, they never actually change, they can only be sober for some weeks and you just go about same thing over over again..Accept their imperfections and love them just as they come.. Pls don't even try to reform him...
