Being in an Emotionally abusive relationship is like being in an enclosed space with a hurt and hungry lion. And often you could look to BPD Borderline Personality Disorder also referred to as Emotionally Unstable Disorder as a culprit among the causes.
This long-term pattern of abnormal behavior that is often triggered in early adulthood can be characterized by unstable relationships with other people, unstable sense of self, and unstable emotions, also includes the extreme fear of abandonment, frequent dangerous behavior, a feeling of emptiness, and self-harm, and symptoms could be brought on by seemingly normal events and results in a 10% death by suicide statistic figure.
One living with BPD often acts on how a situation makes them feel, then builds a series probable of events around those emotions, and when it comes to trying to find a resolution in stead of looking to facts, logic or reason; they refer to the disillusioned truth of their own fictitious thoughts. These feelings and behaviors that seem appropriate and justified to the person experiencing them, remains in truth harmful not only to themselves but to the ones around them as well and are often the cause of much bigger problems in that persons life.
Symptoms also include:
Having an unstable or dysfunctional self-image or a distorted sense of self (how one feels about one’s self)
Feelings of isolation, boredom and emptiness
Difficulty feeling empathy for others
A history of unstable relationships that can change drastically from intense love and idealization to intense hate
A persistent fear of abandonment and rejection, including extreme emotional reactions to real and even perceived abandonment
Intense, highly changeable moods that can last for several days or for just a few hours
Strong feelings of anxiety, worry and depression
Impulsive, risky, self-destructive and dangerous behaviors, including reckless driving, drug or alcohol abuse and having unsafe sex
Hostility
Unstable career plans, goals and aspirations
Intense mood swings, impulsive behaviors, and extreme reactions can make it difficult for people with borderline personality disorder to complete schooling, maintain stable jobs and have long-lasting, healthy relationships.
The very sad ironic truth about people with BPD is that they often so badly crave and need closeness, love & companionship, but their intense and unstable emotional responses alienate others, magnifying their long-term feelings of isolation.
