Today I met my longtime friends which is a deejay in one of a well-known entertainment outlet in this city. He and his wife (now ex-wife) were my housemates when I was performing on a duty-free island in Malaysia.
Since he and his wife was a deejay in the outlet where I used to work before, so they both staying in the same hostel with me. It was quite a surprise for me to met him because I knew that he had retired from the entertainment industry.
Long story short, he told me that he and his wife (which was my friend too) were divorced. As I remembered, the last I met this couple together was in 2009, and they went away to another outlet because our job in this entertainment industry based on yearly contract. The longest contract I've been to work with was a year and a half.
I asked him how old is he now because his face hasn't aged a bit from the last I saw him. Surprisingly, he's 55 years old now and still on the DJ counsel. He still the funny guy that I used to know except this time, he was all alone without the wife. It's quite awkward to me because I always met them together.
I don't mean to interfere or ask anything about his relationship, but I think he knew that I was curious about what happened between them. I'm not trying to be nosy, but his wife is considered one of my closest friend. She was the one who company me to the Shariah Court when I got divorced for the first time in year 2008.
He told me that his wife had an affair with a married man while he was away on his business. Since he stopped working at the entertainment industry, he changed his carrier and work in the tourism industry. I was in disbelief. But I let him tell his story.
So, we have a long talk for hours. Every time the band was on stage, he will sit next to me and continued his stories. After the band finished their third set, I went back home with my friend, which was one of the singers in the band that performing in his outlet last night. She sent me over to my rental apartment.
I reached home around 1 am. I took a hot shower and then have a cup of hot cocoa milk before I went to bed. But his stories keep on playing in my mind. I was in shocked, I guess. I've been meeting a lot of my old friends lately. It's like those who have resigned from their job before since year 2010, has started working back in this entertainment industry.
I would rather not assume all his stories are true because I prefer to hear both the side of stories. He offered me his ex-wife mobile number, but I declined. I told him that I will reach out to her if I want too, since I even had my problem myself.
I thought I have the worst experienced, but there are more unlucky couples who went through some rough patches. It just that our stories were not the same and the hurt were different.
These days, woman, and man are equal. There's no gender issue in adultery. It took two to tango, so I will not going to judge. I have been in a situation where myself being judged by the one who have shared a bed with me and an outsider who never sleep with me but slept with the one I shared bed with.
I find it funny if I shared my stories, I'll get the blame for an attention. But it will be okay for them to share their stories, judging me and told their version about me. After some time, I got fed up with a childish accusation,, especially from a person who only hear 1 side of the stories.
With what I went through last night and listening to my friend talking about how bad his wife was, I simply said that I'm sorry to hear that. But I will never going to be the one who spill the oil into a burning fire. Those who loved to do that, always have their agenda.
A true friend will always listen and give some advices. Even if the relationship can't be safe, do not be the third wheel on other people relationship. I always believe in karma. No matter what I've been through, those who spreading the rumors and hatred will receive their punishment on one fine day.
God is great, if you believe in Him. For those who deny his existence, I can't change their belief. But the consequences will be paid on cash terms in this today world. We don't have to wait until the end of the world for the Judgement Day. God is great, my dear friends. He can work His miracle in so many ways.
Always stand up for the truth and never be afraid to fight for your right. I will not going to play innocence. Because it is a waste of time. My words will be sharp as a knife, but my words will be my statement on the trial. I let the law judge me. I'll display those who love to interfere in my relationship and wanting the worst for me.
Not only that, but I always believe that telling the truth is more powerful than hiding with a lie. As a woman, a sister, a wife, and a mother, I will not going to let a third-person or other people judge me, especially not my ex's. You can call me a toxic, a narcissist, play victim, or a useless mother. Just named it. There's nothing going to kill a healing woman who are enjoying their freedom and lovely life.
The more they talked, the happier I am because their nerves' system might be dislocated when they see my progress. Even this post might be judge and critic by the “Wannabe” Mr./Ms Know It All.
My friend gave me a good advice today, “Show them your achievement, in process for those who hate to see you grow, learn that your future is no longer in their hand. Your happiness is not for them to celebrate, but for you, YOURSELF.” My intention in this post reluctantly to educate those who loves the positives vibes.
Those who believe that every human being have flaws. Those who believe in the truth, nothing but the truth. Those who adapt with the positivity and stay to away of the negativity. I love to see the beautiful in others and their stories, and their worst experienced can be my “101 on How To Prevent Myself From The Negativity."
THIS IS THE LINK FROM LAST NIGHT
(I didn't took any picture last night)
