A lot of friendship has been put to hold yesterday mentality of someone having the idea of doing too much in that relationship which is not supposed to be, this really is a great factor and one of the dangerous thought that has made lot of friendship not work out. When friendship of different gender look amazingly good and all of a sudden you notice drastic change in the act of one towards the other all in the name of thinking you are doing too much and you feel the other person is not putting energy just the way you do. This might actually not be true and can just be as a result of overthinking which most female can actually do . I just have to start with this point because i am actually not going that way so this is just a divert from where i am going actually.
Why do people always think they can just have access to you just like before after leaving and thinking everything is actually fine even though they left, the sense of entitlement most people have and they hide under the name called friendship just to do things that does not actually make sense, imagine cutting ties with someone or just going silent on someone you call a friend just because of a little misunderstanding and you went for months without keeping in touch then all of a sudden you showed up unexpectedly and trying to get help from the person you cut ties with before.
Now where the problem lies is that the other friend which you cut ties with, how do you expect him or her to feel and decide to help you when that need arises. The few thought or let me say many thought will surely be running through the mind and it can actually be thinking “What if i help this person, won’t he or she leave again just like before or just trying to use me because i am the only available option at that moment”, thinking what if he sees another person that can offer more than i do wont he or she go like before. The worst part of it now is that if the friend now decided not to help who was in need at that moment, he or she would be tagged a bad friend not knowing what actually happened at first for that action.
The later action is what people will see but fail to see what actually happened from the beginning. So that is life, some only come to you when they feel you have something to offer for them but when you can’t offer that thing again, you will be left out and they will actually go to another person just to get what they needed and to me i do not see that as friendship but just a greedy person trying to benefit from one and not ready to give.
My own opinion is getting self respect and know who to give audience because not everyone is worth it.