HOW TO TRANSFORM YOUR PATNER WITHOUT RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude"
It is commonly said that change is a constant thing. Whether you know it or not, every living and non-living things will go to through a period of change. The clothes you wear will change color or reduce in size due to frequent washing or that you outgrow it.
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In relationship, one of the major cause of friction or issue is when a partner tries to change the other or make them conform to his or her belief and ideology about life miraculously. Ko le work! Change doesn't happen overnight, there’s a process and there's a price to pay for it.
HOW DO I CHANGE MY PATNER
Firstly is to
Love them
Love is usually said to be in deed and in truth, it is not in word or tongue. If you want to effect change in anyone, you must first love them. Change cannot be effected if you hate a person or system.
Love will soften your heart to see the positive side of them. If your heart is full of anger, hatred, bitterness or resentment towards them, you can never instill change in them.
How do you think animals are domesticated? A dog will be hostile to you if you're mean to it. But when you express love to it in deed and in truth, it'll be kind and bond easily with you.
You can never see change in the life of your partner if you hate him or her. Love is not about saying "I love you" when you're happy with your spouse or when everything is fine in your relationship. True love is expressing unfeigned love in deed and in truth when they seem unlovable.
Secondly is To Be patient with Them
Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world"
Yorubas in their wit stated that it takes patience to cook a stone to be soft. Don't try it o, or else, you'll waste your gas, it is proverbial.
No change happens overnight. Change is not a miracle, it's a process. If you see change manifest in your life, know that you have done something to effect it or someone somewhere have labored for that change to manifest in you.
You need patience to make your partner be in agreement with you in the areas of your disagreement. Patience is a virtue. It is among the fruits of the spirit. God instill this virtue in you by bringing a difficult person into your life. You don't acquire patience in the college, it's a nature you must imbibe.
How patient you are with your spouse determines how quick the change will manifest in them.
Remove the log in your eyes
Don't you think most of us are quick to pick up faults in the life of our partner or others without removing the fault finding mechanism in our life?
If you're complaining that your spouse is this or that, don't you have that tendencies hidden somewhere in the fabrics of your soul? Or why are you always seeing the negative?
It will be very difficult for you to change your partner if they are always at fault while you're always the saint
Look into your soul, there could be something in you that causes them to act the way they do. And if you don't remove yours, it'll be difficult for you to remove theirs.
Be the change you desire
Do you want to see your partner change overnight? Be the change!
Some ask so many questions like
"I don't even understand if she still loves me or not
All of these can only be answered if you express genuine love to them. Change is easily seen in a person when you become an agent of change. Darkness cannot influence darkness. It takes light to influence darkness neither can two wrongs make a right.
If there's ever anything in your partner that you don't like, that irritates or hurts you, see their positive side so that you can conveniently change them without destroying your relationship.