The incomprehension of people means that they can harm us more than help us, there are ways to deal with people like this, with situations of this kind that do not finish by helping us, by the words they tell us or how they are directed towards us. obviously for more social or less social that we can become we are always influenced by colleagues, study, by our parents, siblings, our partner etc, and often when we tell them that we have anxiety or how bad we are going, they may come to believe that we are exaggerating.
As a result of that there are phrases or advice that with all their good will instead of helping us what they do is to harm us, to deal with the incomprehension of the people that surround us when we have anxiety, it is with communication, that is what we need to arm ourselves with In order to deal with these people that we want or not, we will not cross them, we will have to see their faces, we must face them and communicate this person to change their behavior towards us, obviously in the best possible way.
In a first approach we will say that we appreciate your advice but they are not helping us anything, on the contrary they are making us feel worse, that we are putting our means through a therapy and that every time we saw each other we talked about something else, that person From that moment on, you know that your comments are inappropriate, most people are normal and coherent people will stop telling you that at the end people are good by nature, if in a second moment that person to whom you have communicated this, go back to the same thing, you say something bad again, well, here is the time to ask you to raise your tone a bit and I'm not talking about shouting or insulting but telling you that if you really respect people, leave the topic and warn you that you will not ask for it a third time, because next time what you are going to do is cut with that relationship due to your attitude.
It´s not time to shut up, it is not time to look good with anyone, it is time to look for you, for your anxiety and if someone is not making you feel good with your comments you must say it, you have to enhance your assertiveness when you have to say no, know when you have to say yes, know when something is good for you and when not, look for your health, it does not make any sense a treatment for anxiety that takes time and is laborious if the people around you can throw it overland, we can not consent to that and we must rethink whether it is worthwhile to continue to see that person's face at least while you continue advancing in your recovery from anxiety.