Some have the tendency to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, they care about their partners, their friends and their children, trying to do everything in their power to ensure they are happy, when something goes wrong for someone close to them. we blame themselves.
There are all kinds of ways we are excellent at blaming ourselves for situations that were beyond our control and that were not our responsibility in the first place, it is crucial to remember that we can not make other people happy, some people will reject your help and will give you back to your friendship, it does not make sense to waste energy thinking that perhaps you should have tried harder, although we can help and support people with our friendship, we can not take responsibility for their happiness.
We can´t make them change, under any circumstances, trying to change another person by force is a waste of time and energy, it may seem the opposite, after all, we care about other people, not ourselves, but the truth is that trying to take on too much responsibility is a way of putting ourselves at the center of everything, you need to start decentering yourself, of course you are important, but you are not the source of happiness for others.
Let others take responsibility, there is a difference between taking on someone else's duties to help, which is a perfectly valid act and trying to solve all their problems for them, preventing them from growing or taking responsibility for their own lives, it can be difficult If you know that a loved one is unhappy, you may be tempted to blame yourself, you may even want to help, but that will not help in the long term.
Of course, there will always be times when, out of love, we will do something kind and unexpected for a friend or relative, but if you take responsibility for the smooth functioning of someone else's life, or if you are blaming yourself for problems that someone else should face Then you have gone too far.