The first night is a secret that must be maintained by married couples.
It is not appropriate to talk about the first night to others. Especially if there is a shortage in the husband and wife relationship.
There is a tradition in the District of Penukal Abab Lematang Ilir (PALI), South Sumatra (South Sumatra) about the night pertrama.
An unnamed woman said her family still holds the "curved tradition".
In that tradition, newly wed couples are required to perform a "first night" on a white cloth.
At the same time, some of the elders of the groom's family waited near the door (outside the room).
After the bride and groom have finished their duties, the elders will go into the room and make sure the white cloth is a "virgin blood" mark or not.
"I know the blood that comes out when mixed up can not be a virgin or not, but my family remains keukeh performing the custom, I am confused ustaz," said the woman in consultation with ustaz.
The ustaz concluded that the tradition was contrary to the Islamic Shari'a.
"Our religion does not teach that kind of thing, you have to explain it in a good way to your family, that we have to keep the company, but not so," said the ustaz.
A former penghulu in one of the villages within the subdistrict of Penukal, PALI, where the tradition once existed. H Wancik (65), the person.
Quoted from Sriwijaya Post, he recounted, before the 90s, traces who want to meet the girl her idol must be gutsy and fight hard.
At that time, meet and be together should be covert if you do not want to be battered and fined.
"If you want to meet a girl, it must be hidden, if caught can be beaten or taken to the village head's house and imposed a fine," said Wancik.
According to Wancik, strict rules of association between men and women is not without cause.
This is done because the family of the girl trying to maintain the honor and sanctity of his daughter.
Also so as not to be embarrassed, when the girl gets married in due time.
For men, virginity is the honor of a girl at that time.
"The bridegroom may return a woman she has just married if it proves to be no virgin anymore, so there is such custom," he said.
Wancik explained that on the first night, the groom's family will unfurl a white cloth on the bridal bed.
Then, the male family of elders will wait at the door of the bridal chamber, during the process of the first night mixed up.
After the bride and groom finished "becampur", then the parents or family elders will check the room that has been used bride.
The white cloth that is the base will be checked.
They will prove whether there is a spot of blood on the cloth that is considered proof that the bride is still a virgin or not.
If there are blood spots, the groom's elders will hit a curve (a kind of small gong) to be heard in the community.
The voice of the arch contains information that the bride is still a virgin.
Conversely, if no marks or blood stains are found on the cloth, there is no curved sound.
"If that happens, then the eligible bride has the right to choose whether she wants to continue marriage or bring the bride back to her family, which is very embarrassing and that is what the female family is afraid of," Wancik said.
