I think you are absolutely right about the mindset part, and that is the part I find most difficult.

I've not got anywhere near the hodling that you do, I think I would not have dealt with that "loss" as well as you! But I got into Steem back when it was $6 and went all-in - all my BTC and ETH, and some fiat. Back then I thought Steem was going to 2x so it "made sense".

That said, I no longer look at Hive as a way to get out of my day job commitments and instead look at it like a learning opportunity. I'm coding projects so I can get a better understanding how things work and maybe I will build something that people see value in and earn that way, instead of hoping for the windfall Hive at $20 day ;)