"Understanding that all our bad actions come from a place of trauma and pain and try to understand rather than to judge." You hit the nail on head with this one! It is like some sort of self defense mechanism that not always comes across the right way and those at the receiving end not always understand those reactions come from place of pain or feeling worthless, not feeling appreciated and that in those moments while being harsh to others they are hoping that perhaps someone will show them compassion, ask them what is wrong. But even without lashing out on others, when you are not ok and your performance drops and you feel miserable then and there, some people would not ask what's wrong and rather look at them as being some pathetic creature and that is where the compassion is missing. It's such cold way to handle people. I wish that changed.

Thank you! And thank you for your comment as it brings out one more dimension to the topic!