Thank you so much for sharing this review with us @creativemary! The timing couldn't have been any better as I am dealing with some personal issues related to the topic at the moment. I will look into getting this book as I think it will help me to understand better and almost wished it was translated in my language so I could share it with a person who is struggling with similar issues described in the book from what I gather from your in depth review.

Well, to be honest. It is my mother and I, and my current living situation, which is triggering a lot of past trauma, trauma that I have been trying to have a conversations about only to be shut down, in almost mocked way which makes it even worse. I did not have a very happy childhood and I believe I was traumatized since my existence which has affected my entire life and how I connect with people. Or really I have very difficult time to connect with people. I am scared to be mocked and laughed at, I am scared to be perceived as a weirdo, in fact, I have been told to my face that people thought I was one and that they were surprised that they could actually have a great time to be in my company xD I have a huge difficulty to have any conversations with strangers apart from written form, I get awkward and self-conscious, I stumble upon words because of the fear of sounding stupid only to be unable to portray my thoughts clearly which probably makes them then think that. It hurts a lot that I can't speak of any of this with my mother without triggering her anger issues. It is impossible to have any conversations about it without it ending in a fight. For a longest time I could not understand where the anxiety comes from now that I am an adult, but it is all those triggers. Tiny little things that remind me of those stressful situations growing up. But what happened to me probably happened to her too. And she passed it down to me. It makes me sad to know that she has not addressed any of those issues as I see her going through the same loops over and over again. Letting the anger rule over everything. That is not to say that there was no loving moments or caring for me, there was a lot of it, but there was buckets of trauma without understanding that her actions permanently damaged me.

People mess up their own kids a lot. I believe in that to be true. It is very stigmatized topic too. Not many people are talking about this or working on the past trauma.