Dearest of hearts,
For more than two decades of my life, I have prayed to God to bring my way a man after His own heart, a man who loves Him and who in turn will love me with an unconditional love. I have no doubt in my heart that you are closer to me today than you were yesterday because God has never failed me and He makes all things beautiful in His time.
I am however writing to you in advance to hint you about my kind of person and the kind of relationship I look forward to having with you. I wrote to your mum a couple of days back, praising her for the great work she did in raising a great man like you. Perfectly fitted for me and our future kids.
First off, I want you to know that I am not expecting a perfect man! Not at all! I am not perfect either. I make mistakes just as sure as I know you do but our ability to identify our mistakes and work upon making things right is one of the characteristics I look forward to in you. With this our imperfections can be corrected in love. And I promise to work with you every step of d way in order for us to have our desired happy home.
Also I'd love to let you know I am an extremely sensitive individual. I get easily hurt by words and actions. I can smile this minute and have tears rolling down my face the other minute. I am not a naturally jealous person but I know from experience that as much as I am not against you making opposite sex friends, I will make my displeasures known if at any time I feel an handshake is going beyond the elbow. Once I make my displeasures known, I'd appreciate you not waving my concerns aside like that of a silly girl's. At moments like this, I need you to be understanding and not regard my sensitivity as stupidity or unnecessary jealousy.
I can also assure you I will most likely get on your nerves, be moody, eat your meat and egg, ask questions on clear and unclear topics, raise issues so we could discuss them together (not because I wanna argue but because I enjoy matured and intellectual discourse), wake you up in the middle of the night for issues that might seem trivial to you but which by your matured nature, you will understand 'trivialiaty' does not keep a woman awake, ask questions that might sound stupid just for the fun of it. I'm sure you will be okay with this because you also have a package of your own imperfections (which I will learn to patiently adjust to).
Oh before I forget, I love a man who is friendly and hospitable. By this I mean I expect that you will have friends who mean the world to you, I however wish you'd put me first and keep our relationship issues from them. Three is a crowd! I expect your sense of defence to be activated for me at all times in your friends' presence, even when I'm at fault (you can then deal with me privately to put me right once we are alone). I'd do you the same favour.
Also, I look forward to a relationship where love, friendship and laughter thrive. I expect you to let me know when I get you mad (I can be maddenly annoying). In our home, no issue should be left unresolved to the next day, else we give room to the devil. Please on no account should you give me silent treatment (it kills me slowly when the person I care about proves through silent treatment that they are okay without me for hours or days). Never at any time leave me emotionally hanging or make me feel useless and unvalued.
I love to be taken out on dates, nothing grandiose nothing spectacular, just me and you. Holding hands, gisting, laughing at inside jokes, watching movies and other fun activities. I'm not hard and expensive to please. Oh, and I love gifts! No matter how little they are, they touch the deepest part of my heart. I can't wait to find out what pleases you also.
In conclusion, I want to thank you in advance for all the time you will forgive my shortcomings and love me all through them. Thanks for your patience and understanding in advance. Thanks in advance for the early morning calls and texts that will set my days on better notes. Thanks for the free massages in advance(I am also skilled at massaging so you have that bonus already). Thanks for all the support you are going to give my visions and endeavors (I am a vision driven woman and there are a lot to do). Thanks for the encouragement in advance.
I have so many things to gist you about but I will keep them till our paths cross. Till then just know I love you so much already (because I have so much love to give). I look forward to living and enjoying life with you.
Yours to soon be,
Your future love and wife.
