I really struggle with the idea of a universe that's working with me.

Stop struggling...The universe will always try to deliver - including the (your?) need to struggle.

Answers are easy.

Asking the right questions is the tricky part... I can't give you any 'tips' - that would devalue the 'asking the right question' part .... that , matey , is where the real values lies (way more valuable than any answer).

...And here endeth Gandalfs 'words of wisdom' for the day...I'm now off to create some fukkupery...