Perhaps [IFF] we are to hold bystanders of a crime morally culpable, we too ought to hold ourselves accountable on behalf of those who shall have to live in the world we're creating for them.

Great point. I call this, "The Mother's Dilemma".

Is a mother responsible for her unborn child's practically inevitable lifetime of pain and suffering?

And from a more theological perspective,

Is a creator responsible for their uncreated being's practically inevitable lifetime of pain and suffering?