But it isn't about equality, is it? It is about equity.
The needs of the individual are met.

I think your distinction between equality and equity is important here. Treating everyone the same does not automatically meet everyone’s needs, and pretending otherwise can actually erase legitimate differences in how people process, express, and decompress socially. Spaces that allow people to temporarily lower their social guard can be healthy provided they are not built on contempt for others. The existence of a men’s space doesn’t negate mixed spaces any more than women’s clubs negate men.