I can absolutely, most definitely, relate to your experience with childhood anxiety and social phobia! It's a tough one to deal with, being taught from such a young age by society that the authentic "you" is inherently flawed. Cue a lifetime of people-pleasing behaviours, amiright...? Thirty-eight years later, I've finally reached a point where I am super happy to admit that I am an EXTREME introvert, I do VERY badly in social situations, and I'm just not a people person. Lucky for me, I've found myself a wonderful tribe of people who love me for those exact things, and we always find ways to poke fun at each other for our individual quirks 😁
In terms of dealing with traumas, you hit the nail on the head: talk it out. Even with yourself. Blog it, vlog it, scream it, shout it. Just keep talking.
And I'll be right here, listening! Looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
All the best to you!