It really sucks when you can't just come back with your wife because of the system, unless you're prepared to make compromises, and unfortunately that's something we always have to face in life.

England is not perfect, nowhere is, China isn't either. It all boils down to how you see your surroundings and what you choose to absorb or ignore. When you reach the equilibrium, both places can be heaven.. or hell

Good luck with everything!