Authenticity: Inner Agreements Change Outer Realities

This post includes the original writings of my friend Jack Coleman, Life Hacker, from his website and blog. I'm sharing his post with his permission because I can validate his experience and perhaps you can, too. Jack highlights the spiritual interactions that can drive relationship body language and choices we may unconsciously offer to others to withdraw from relationship 'full presence' with us out of a sense of their being disrespected, taken for granted or not being valued -- when we have minds, hearts, or feelings change.

This happens to all of us in big and small ways.

The issue is about truth, transparency, and trust.

What if we just shared our authentic thoughts, including when we feel ourselves changing? What if we could think "Hmmm...I'm not into going to the gym." or "Hmmm...I would rather going out to dinner another time." and then just SAY this to whoever it is we are in relationship with? How would our spiritual energy shift if we set ourselves on a spiritual path deeply embedded in truth, transparency and trust? How would our daily realities shift when we have insight into our feelings/needs/changes and we have the inner balance and courage to bring our 'truth' in the moment with kindness and consideration? Be who we are and express that to...whoever. Mom. Dad. Grandma. Grandpa. Best friend. Sister. Brother. Teacher. Boss. Girlfriend. Boyfriend. Lover. Ex-lover. New person in our lives.

Can you relate to this dynamic? Can you relate to both perspectives? I can, and this is why I'm sharing Jack's post. Being authentic is a hockey stick learning curve.

Jack writes:

We make agreements and contracts based on what we want to experience in accordance with what we feel others want to experience with us. Of course, this is a subjective perspective on life because we each want different experiences, things don’t always go according to plan, and our feelings can and do change.

Let's say our spiritual self imagines an experience, so we connect with this possibility on a metaphysical level. This is the initiation of an agreement. Since relationships are infinitely everywhere, our experience involves other beings (human, animal, plant, cellular, planetary, and so on), and we metaphysically connect with these beings by communicating our intention of moving into 3D reality with them. When we verbally share these intentions through 3D modalities, and others hear and feel us. Then we agree to manifest the imagined reality at a particular place and time with that specific being -- in three dimensions. Our spiritual selves agree to make a probable reality into a shard physical reality.

However, our words might not last, a bond may break. The spiritual contract that is broken on one end is felt by the others in that contract or agreement. We might intend creating a specific reality that involve others but things change and perhaps such a reality would no longer serve us. This inward shift in any agreement or contract creates a particular flux of energy within the relationship, and this energy shift is felt. Interesting, right?

Spiritually agreed upon bounds are spiritually felt.

Even if we don't consciously or verbally communicate our intention to change the plan, others in the agreement can feel it and if you are the once changing the agreement without intentional communication you will notice the other parties energy change. Just pay attention to the fluctuation within you and within them. These changes will be seen in body language, eye contact, and other non-verbal cues in a face to face encounter.

There is a correlation between our feelings and our physical interactions with others. Even though we may view our private thoughts as everyday internal conversation, “It would be nice to take this person to dinner sometime. We should go to the gym tomorrow,” they have influence. A person on the other end of your thought-form feels they are being invited into the reality your thoughts have the potential to create, so if we don’t actually take them to dinner or call them to go to the gym the next day, they may feel a sense of disappointment or even betrayal, a promise broken. Their energy may towards us may change.

Do we notice? Connect with a person's energy and personality in your inner thoughts, make the spiritual agreement to experience a particular reality with them, break that agreement, and then notice their energy and personality in your outer world experience. Or connect with their energy and personality, make a spiritual agreement to experience a particular reality with them, commit to that agreement, and then observe their energy and personality. You will see and feel the difference in either instance.

This is something I see in relationships on many different levels, and it’s amazing how influential spiritual contracts are. I’ve seen how my relationships subtly change when I commit or break agreements on a spiritual level.

I’ve noticed this same dynamic within my cellular relationships, as well. I make agreements with my cells that I will treat them to an experience; forms of exercise, relaxations, or dietary nutrients. When I didn’t follow through, the energy changes creating a dynamic in our relationship. The feedback I get about not following through may show up as illness. Slowly, the part of my body with which I made a spiritual agreement will feel demoralized just as a person would. The energy investment maintaining the relationship isn’t nearly as strong, and something lets go.

What do our thoughts communicate to others in our relationships, and how committed are we to these random thoughts? Appreciate what you verbally tell someone in 3D level, feel your thoughts and emotions and commit to them.

I used to see probable realities and possibilities as “just thoughts,” but I have come to realize how powerful and influential our casual thoughts can be.

This is fascinating because choosing to be more aware of the spiritual agreements and contracts I make daily, I understand that probable reality outcomes are dictated by physical manifestations of agreement that happen on my end. If I keep throwing around “what ifs, wouldn’t it be nice, or we should” feelings without intending to follow through, I may be perceived as flaky, noncommittal, or unreliable.

Are you sensitive to these subtle, internal dynamics? Leave a comment!

Anaiis Salles