I saw a friend of mine reading this book. Normally, I don't really go into self-help books. I lean more into fiction. But the title hooked me so much that I decided to give this book a try, and oh, I had so much fun with it.
screenshot of book cover.
Why Do Men Love Bitches?
My lady, you see that you keep turning down this particular guy but he keeps coming back and won't leave you alone? Everyday he's calling, texting, doing things for you, trying to prove that he's the one for you.
Most times you don't even thank him. Irritated, you just pick up your phone, call and ask, "What's the meaning of all this? I haven't asked you for a thing." But that doesn't deter him at all. But he'll call you again tomorrow. And it goes on and on.
So, the knowledge this book is imparting is that, that attitude showing that man is not scaring him off at all. You're rather encouraging him to be more drawn to you. I cannot for the life of me understand why it has to be this way, but it is what it is. Men are pursuers and won't stop until they get what they want. They enjoy the thrill and danger of the chase.
That's why when you and I were playing with barbie dolls, they were climbing trees, watching spiderman or somersaulting. We like candy crush, and they like racing cars. If you have kid brothers, you'll know that boys can pull stunts that can give you apoplexy.
So yeah, they enjoy the chase. Once the chase ends, they look for something else to excite and thrill them. That's why the guy you actually like acts in ways that make you question if he's aware of how lucky he is to have your attention.
The guy you like like is putting in no effort because he knows for sure that you like him, and he doesn't have to do much to win you over. Another instance is when you finally give in to the guy who was actively pursuing you at first. You realize that as time goes on, he becomes relaxed. He stops doing what he used to do, slacks from the things he did to win you. And you're left with so many questions and worries.
This book says it's because deep down they don't want women to give in so easily. They enjoy the chase more. But if you give in and try to make things easier for them, they become bored, complacent and lazy.
This book guides you on how to keep a man on his toes so he doesn't feel like the thrill is gone or he has a complete hold over you. It also teaches how to keep your boundaries intact as a woman. Despite a few contradictions I noted here and there, I think in all, it's kinda accurate.
I won't be following the rules though, because I'm a lover girl and once I'm in love, I'll simp and forget all the rules. Maybe I'm delusional, but I think love is not supposed to be a game and I believe in fairytale love.
But it was an interesting read, can't lie. The humor was top-notch. And I definitely picked a lesson or two that can actually guide me in life.
