"Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood" ~Stephen Covey
The date is March 31, 2023 and TeamPH is having its first official discord meetup in voice. Lasting about 2 hours and having no expectations I wanted to put here some of the moments that stick out to me the most.
To our surprise the 23rd highest ranking (by HP) Hive community member 
Q: As a Philippines focused community what do you think will be our disadvantages and advantages.
A: Your advantage will be a weak local fiat and cheap wages mixed with cheap cost of living. Your two greatest risks will be retention and entitlement.
A reference to Hive votes
I personally am a fan of quotes and they remind me a gif or a meme but in text form. They say "A picture is worth a thousand words" and in my opinion a quote is worth a million. It can be overwhelming to break into the Hive ecosystem and there are many moving parts. azircon left us with a lot of wisdom and here is the million words he left us with to end our meeting.
A first meetup would not be complete without a bit of drama and we had or first. Before I get into this lets define the difference between a joke and trolling.
Now that we have that out of the way lets roll through the turn of events as I experienced them.
First let me note that definethedollar still had a green leaf next to his name and had just joined the discord the day of our event. My grandpa always told me "one thing about a first impression is you never get a second chance".
Our first guest during or event and the person responsible for opening the first doors for us into the Hive ecosystem was 
Joke or Trolling? This wasn't funny nobody was laughing and clearly checks all the boxes of trolling.
Jim was our guest in our community and this was noted in a PM in real time.
This post may not seem like a big deal to a westerner. Let me remind you that definethedollar was well aware that this was a Filipino community. In the Philippines this type of behavior is extremely frowned upon and seen as arrogant and inappropriate. Filipinos are the masters at showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance.
This was in reference to value extractors. It was said in voice that a person who isn't interested in our ethos would be kicked from the discord. A person who buys a Bored Ape or TeamPH tokens are not entitled to being part of the community. A place in or community is earned not bought. definethedollar is welcome to have his own opinion and we welcome the interaction. Just seemed like a lot of passion for his first 24 hours in the community discord.
Next up was our surprise guest azircon he was someone we were all waiting to hear from. As a new community on Hive we have many questions. We don't have the depth of knowledge and we were looking forward to the opinions of a Hive community member who has 1M HP.
The trolling started almost immediately with each text comment diverting the speaker into giving attention to definethedollar.
Hive isn't decentralized
Hive only goes down in value
Notice the laughing emoji again and again at the end of all his replies. I will remind everyone again trolling is "manipulating others' perception, thus acting as provocateur. Also having no respect for the guest.
The next day there was a few back and forth statements made and ultimately define the dollar left the server. My motivation for writing this post is so that everyone involved can learn and grow from this experience. I also would like to use this as reference for future similar events.
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood® ~Stephen Covey
There are many characteristics in the Filipino culture and I would like to take a second to highlight one of the more common ones. Non-confrontational or avoiding difficult conversations or conflict. The side affect of this is that often a Filipino community, family or organization will rally behind a "dog of war" or "guardian of the gate". TeamPH will always welcome everyone but belittling and western arrogance will result in immediate reciprocation or basically a taste of your own medicine.
Going into a foreign digital community is similar to landing in a foreign country, be humble and selfless, seek to understand first. The lesson to be learned for a westerner mentality is don't pass judgment, just accept that not every culture has the same opinion as you. Selflessness is not the act of thinking less of yourself, its the act of thinking about yourself less.
"Together we Thrive Kapamilya"
