Love is a complex thing, that is an understatement.
Do you really know what happens when you give your heart out to someone and they give theirs back? Probably not.
Most people would utter the phrase "I love you" or "They love each other".
It isn't quite as simple as that, science feels it can dig a bit deeper into the feeling almost every human strives to achieve.
On an epic high of feel-good chemicals, our brain cause us fall into deep love. We think we are choosing the partner, but mother nature may have more pawns in place than we know.
How Hard Is It To Fall In Love With Someone?
it takes between 90 seconds and 4 minutes to decide if you fancy someone.
Research Has Proven.
Further research shows this does not relate to what is said in those 4 minutes, but rather:
55% is through body language
38% is the tone and speed of their voice
Only 7% is through what they say
The 3 Stages Of Love
Stage 1: Lust
The first stage of love. Your extreme longing for connection is driven by the sex hormones testosterone (men) and estrogen (women).
Stage: 2 Attraction
The most renowned stage of love, this is when it get's interesting. You can't think of anything else except for the amazing experience you are living. Scientists have ruled down three main transmitters involved in this process; adrenaline, dopamine and serotonin.
Adrenaline
You are falling for someone, you notice one major change, your stress response is activated, noticable increases in blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. Imagine the charming response you get when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
Dopamine
Helen Fisher, American anthropologist, human behavior researcher, and self-help author asked a group of love-struck couples to receive a brains examination, soon Fisher discovered high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This is the main chemical which activates ‘desire and reward’ through an intense rush of pleasure.
Stage 3: Attachment
Attachment is like a well tied knot, it will keep the couple in a relationship long enough to have children. Scientistis believe there are most likely two major hormones involved in this extreme attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.
Oxytocin - The cuddle hormone
The good stuff, Oxytocin is released by both men and women during orgasm. Most likely deepening the love and attachment, causing sex to be more special with the same partner. The same chemical triggers a mother to produce milk at the sight or sound of her young infant.
How to fall in love
Find a complete stranger.
Reveal to each other intimate details about your lives for half an hour.
Then, stare deeply into each other’s eyes without talking for four minutes.