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>Accept!... is it urgent immediately?... By conscious choice between guilt and the fate of *"I have to do something"*, and not to disappoint others, that definitely has to change. Why? Well, because guilt or fear look back and punish, while fate looks forward, and between the stimulus and the response there is the space to be able to choose, and decide to change, I prefer a deep reflection on hope, purpose and the human capacity to find meaning even in the midst of suffering. Because it is in the most difficult circumstances, when a human being can choose the attitude with which he faces life. I've been making changes for several years, I'm doing it step by step, it's a daily job. In these times, learning is constant. Although it is difficult to get out of the already known comfort zone, where we move like a fish in the water, it is better to get out of fear or guilt and use the word new projects so that our self-confidence skyrockets. And with this nothing is broken, not even to anyone, nothing is left, nor is anyone abandoned, I just add the best for myself and leave the self-boycott behind. *Help plus one question*... It often helps more to ask the other a question, our example, than to pretend that we are going to convince someone to think in a radically different way than they believe. We waste time moralizing people, believing that we have a “duty" to bring people out of ignorance. And although, when saying it like that it may sound noble, we must remember that in reality one does not get out of “ignorance” by force. That's where the question topic comes in. That the other person does not think as I do or think as you do not our enemy. I just prefer to keep my way of treating people rather than get hardened by how others treated me. It works that the other person notices, and if we want to help, it's about generating a dynamic in which the other person can notice, not that we force “the answer” on them. Unlearning hurts because the ego feels that it is dying. And partly it's true because the character dies and the spiritual mask he needed to demonstrate. However, it is very worrying that nowadays, we very often see in people very little tolerance to frustration, anxiety, depression and personality disorders, which go unnoticed in the everyday gaze. There are people who add to your life, who you realize bring peace. But others just generate the opposite even if they tell you that they want the best for you...What criteria would you use to evaluate a relationship? Nice day ✨ Janitze 🦋

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