Hello steemians! I hope we are all feeling good.
There’s something that’s been bothering me for a while now. It’s obviously about relationships and true love. Most people today would say there’s no such thing as true love. Some people say you only experience true love when you find your soul mate. Is there any such thing as soul mate?
Some people even love with the “nothing goes for nothing” strategy, to suffice any kind of hurt that will come up later. It’s now a thing of lust and not love. But come to think of it? Why do people build their walls so high? Why do love, using emotional strategies rather than love with the whole of their hearts?
So today, I was with my friend Daisy, and we got talking. She told me about her aunt who was going through so much emotional pain that she couldn’t even go to work nor do anything right she had almost become handicapped. I asked what had happened and she told me everything.
Nina met Miracle one time she went to the mall to do some shopping. He shot his shot, got her to smile and was able to get her number. He was a manager at an oil industry, young, handsome and supposedly single. She on the other hand was younger, an entrepreneur and very attractive with beautiful curves. For about a month plus, their communication was too constant, they went out on dates and they seemed to vibe well. They had similar likes and dislikes and even hobbies. They connected on different levels and seemed to agree on social, cultural, political and emotional issues. Time after time, they became really fond of each other. He didn’t ask her to be his girlfriend, she didn’t push it, but she felt like she was in a relationship. She felt he loved her, not her fault because he put her in the centre of his world.
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After three months, he eventually asked her out and officially become a couple. She was happy, but not to the full of it. He left his family out; he wasn’t taking her close to his mother and only sister as he said. He only introduced her to his best friend Desmond, whom she didn’t really know quite well.
Their affair was becoming really hot, having hot sex at the most absurd and crazy places. He treated and loved her well, always surprising her and making her happy, flaunting her. She had now decided to push the marriage thought into his head. She wasn’t getting any young and neither was he, but he seemed more relaxed. She brought the issue out severally, but he pushed the matter aside, asked her not to worry and bribed her with love making.
He called her one morning, six months into their relationship and said he was travelling for a business transaction in Abuja and that he’d be back in about two weeks. It happened that his birthday was just in the two weeks and she decided to surprise him.
On the Friday morning, she arrived Abuja and headed straight for his residence that she managed to squeeze out from his reluctant secretary. She banged the gate in excitement and a young Hausa man opened the gate for her and ushered her in after she mentioned his oga’s (boss) name. Getting into the house, she saw a young boy and girl who appeared to be twins, looking a lot like Miracle. She was tempted to talk to them but they gave her no attention at all, and she didn’t want to push it.
She was dragged out of her thoughts when she heard the laughter of a woman, followed by that of a man. The woman appeared, with the hands of Miracle wrapped around her.
You can imagine what happened next, the cake she had brought, gifts and her love.
She eventually found out he was married for three years to a woman he had known since he was in the university. Of course, his wife was hurt, after Nina had screamed in pain at him. His wife was very sensitive and understood her pain, but she was married to him. No way was she going to let Nina have him.
It had been two months since this incident happened and not a word from him. They had met in the same mall weeks after, he wanted to talk to her, but she walked away.
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I’ve even heard of women who proposed to men, only for the men to confess that they’re married or, walk away saying they’re not ready to commit. Personally, i don't advice a woman, propose to a man. it's absurd and unnatural. It's okay to put the thought in his head but kneeling down to propose to a man,? no. For all I know, a man always knows what he wants, and would go as far as saying his intentions.
I’m quite puzzled and confused. Why do some men deceive innocent women? This starts a cycle of emotional disarray. A lady, hurt by a man might hurt a good man who will turn the man from a good man to player, who will in turn hurt an innocent girl and so the circle goes. Someone please clear the air. Is there love? Is there true love? What do men want?
