Season greetings!
At the beginning of the year, we see people who put out their resolutions—some announced aloud, and some kept private. Many of these resolutions are usually about personal development, which often goes along with cutting off old friends and making new ones. I was once like that. I mean the idea of deciding, at the beginning of the year, to make new friends and cut off the “negative” ones—but not the type that pastes the resolution everywhere.
But as time went on, I noticed in my life that there is actually no need to intentionally put it to heart to cut people off; it happens naturally, especially in cases where we decide to return the same energy the other person has been putting into the friendship. However, in a situation where a friend is very active in the friendship and I want to cut off, that becomes a very intentional act. This does not happen to me often because I seldom see myself in a situation where I want to cut off a sticking friend. No, no, it has never happened to me.
Do I have people I would like to let go of?
Oh yes, I have a lot of them, but it is not me that is going to initiate that. I like it to happen naturally, and luckily, the natural segregation started last year. I know that once the momentum of absenteeism continues this year, the bond of friendship we had will diffuse into thin air. Most of the people I communicate with are virtual friends, and it is very natural for a bond like that to suddenly die off. Whenever I notice such, I do not push it; I just let the nature of friendship take its course.
What about making new friends?
I will not lie, I always look forward to meeting new people who are like-minded and who will influence me positively. But I do not push for it either. I have a female friend who told me how she goes about seeking new friends, and I found it very awkward. She will walk up to someone she likes (a female she fancies because of her way of life) and request friendship. Is that not awkward? It is, at least as it relates to my kind of person.
I like my friendship with someone to happen unexpectedly and unrequested. Last year (2025), I saw some people walk into my life unplanned and unexpected, and those moments happened to be some of the best moments of my life in 2025. We did not push anything; friendships with good bonds just happened naturally. I am looking forward to such moments of friendship again this year, and also to letting those friendships last very well and be positively influential at both ends.
Of a truth, having the best people around us influences us a lot in all ramifications. I wish to have more positive friends this year.
Thanks for reading.
This is my entry to Week 98, Edition 03 of the Weekly Featured contest in Hive Learners Community
