As you point out the fervor of discussion after the sale to Tron caused you to give the matter thought, and to vote accordingly. Everyone should have done the same, or failed to give attention to their influence on governance during the successful takeover.

Neutrality isn't shooting both sides of a conflict equally. That's not what Switzerland, for example, did in WWII. Neutrality is not shooting at either side, and in this case that would be not voting. Voting for both sides is equivalent to shooting at both sides in a war.

Finally, nobody did anything to anyone's stake. Not one Steem was taken or frozen or anything. We just left.

Hive is separate from Steem. The accounts we have discussed above were voting for obvious sock puppets of Tron actively taking over Steem at the time. Choosing to not provide them free tokens to do the same thing to Hive that they did to Steem was the only reasonable action the creators of Hive could take.

None of those accounts had any Hive that was taken from them. No harm was done to them. Hive did not do them wrong, under any theory, by not giving them free tokens, and that's the simple fact.