At age 9 I already told my sister I wanted to have three kids when I grow up. And now that I am an adult, I just want to have three kids except my future wife decides to disagree… Anyway in all her disagreement, I can only make room for 1 more and not go below three. I wouldn't say I love kids like the way people who love kids do, but if there's one thing I love it is to groom kids. People say I always like to see the best in others, and that's how I groom people, but at the same time I always ensure people make physical efforts to grow. And for them to make physical efforts to grow, they will need someone who is ready to invest their time, energy and resources into them. This is the main reason I do not want to have more than four kids (I would still prefer three though).
I understand that parenting can be hard, not because I am a parent, but because I understand how hard it is to groom people talkless grooming a human being from toddler to adulthood. I need to be able to put my life and soul into their growth which would take a lot. I would really prefer to give birth to the number I can conveniently nurture in my lifetime so I do not end up birthing kids that will call another person father or be mentored by another when I am alive just because I was not able to give them the love and attention of a father. Too bad that the way I pictured my life, I should be married with at least a child or a set of twins… but life happens I guess 😂.
Right now I will say let's see what happens in the next two or three years from now, I still wish to have my first child or set of kids before turning 30 or by at most 30. This doesn't mean I'm in a hurry though, if things goes as planned and I'm lucky, I would be indeed very grateful. Else, I will take life as it is, and keep pushing till I'm ready to start a family because this kids stuff ain't easy. I would still like to wait a year after marriage before having my first child because I heard those children are very good at stealing the wives attention, especially the boys. Well I do not know how it will be in my case, but just to be safe, let me enjoy the wife of my youth well before those bundles of joy will come knocking.
Apart from the number of kids I would like to have, I feel the family should have as many they can take care of financially, psychologically, mentally and otherwise. I know families that have the strength for 10, and I've seen families with the strength for just one. However I have already seen I have the strength for three but I can borrow my wife's strength for a fourth one😂. I remember feeling like a father when my youngest brother was born, and also feeling like a proud father seeing my brothers grow having watched them since they were in my mother's womb. I believe the feeling would be much different when I have kids of my own, but for now that's the closest I have been to becoming a parent.
