Being a gentleman is all about finding peace within yourself as a man away from religion and traditions. It is knowing exactly what you want and being simple about it (So I think). A Lot of guys have demons they fight every day, I wouldn't say all, but at least 97%. Those who don't have demons they are fighting or have never had to fight demons at all usually live carefree not knowing how important it is to be chivalrous. And those who have not known how to manage their demons always have issues with people generally. For a man to be honest and respectful and show all that attitude of a gentleman effortlessly, it simply means he has had time to learn why these things are important and has been able to manage his demons.
There was a time in my life I was so carefree, and a time I felt the world was against me, I never knew that how I saw the world affected how I treated people and ladies especially. It was as though I was inhuman, they would call me proud, arrogant, and full of myself. Selfish to say the least and always putting myself before others, always watching out for myself because I never felt the need to watch out for others because I did not think any other person was important. The person who suffered the most when I was in that state was my mum. I can't count how many times she cried about my attitude but it was as though I was feeling proof. But then one day I heard my friend who casually said to himself, he wouldn't hurt a lady because he wouldn't be happy if anyone did it to his sister.
He had four sisters and I have only one. For some reason I couldn't explain, it was as though his words pierced me so hard that it made me realize the things he said he wouldn't do to others were the things I did to not just people outside but also those in my family. Somehow I started noticing and caring about how others felt, my change was at first awkwardly unbelievable. If someone told my mum I would care how she felt enough to ask her about it, she wouldn't believe it, but then I did and continued. Along the line It wasn't about just wanting nothing bad to happen to my sister, I started loving the feeling I got when I am nice and polite and ladies would look at me like “what does this guy want from me”, but then discover I really wanted nothing but just wanted to be a gentleman and make them feel appreciated.
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