Opinion Series Part 4: Would You Stay in a Relationship If You Discovered You Were Just the Other Woman?

Happy Wednesday Hivers!

When I was still working as an HR in a manufacturing firm, one of my responsibilities was to conduct counseling sessions with employees who had poor attendance, meaning they were frequently absent or going AWOL.

The company was quite large, with around 7,000 employees. With such a big workforce, it was unavoidable that some employees would struggle with attendance and repeatedly be absent or go AWOL

I still remember the first time I conducted a counseling session. I was still new at the company then. It was my birthday, and it was already almost 7:00 PM, yet I was still in the office. I was in a hurry to pack up because I needed to clock out by 7:00 PM,I had a birthday dinner planned with my friends.

While I was fixing my things, the telephone suddenly rang. It was the guard calling to inform me that an employee who had been AWOL had just arrived.

I felt a bit irritated because it was already late. Employees returning from AWOL were supposed to visit the office only between 8:00 AM and 5:00 PM.

I had no choice but to step outside to speak with the employee. I was planning to tell her to just come back the next day. But the moment I saw her, all the irritation I had been feeling immediately disappeared. She was very far along in her pregnancy, her baby bump already quite big. There were bumps on her forehead and visible bruises on her face. I wasn’t sure what to feel in that moment.

I offered her a chair, completely forgetting that I had a dinner date planned as soon as our conversation started.

She shared that she had a live-in partner and didn’t know he was married, he had told her he was single. One time, she was brought to his house because his mother was sick, and that’s when she found out through her partner’s cousins that she was actually the other woman. She confronted him, but he said, “Who are you going to believe, me or them?” To avoid conflict, she chose to believe her partner.

When they returned to the city, a woman showed up at their place and physically attacked her. Shockingly, her partner also joined in hurting her. That’s when she realized her partner’s cousins were right, she really was his mistress. What hurt her most was why he participated in hurting her. That’s why her face was swollen and covered with bruises.

So I asked her, “What did you do after, and what’s your plan?” She replied that she had already filed a police report against both of them, moved to a new house, and immediately broke up with her partner, cutting off all communication. She asked if it would be possible to return to work so she could provide for her two children.

It’s painful to break up with someone you love, especially when you’ve built a life together. But considering he started everything with lies and ended up ruining her life, I think what she did was absolutely right. Now she has a chance to find peace in her life along with her children.

If I were in her situation, I would do the same. Although it hurts, for the well-being of everyone involved, choosing what is right is better than clinging to a so-called “love” that is really just foolishness in disguise.

What about you, what would you do if you were in her situation?

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