I am slowly learning that I don't have to react to everything that bothers me.
I am slowly learning that I don't have to hurt those who hurt me. I am slowly learning that maybe the ultimate sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even. I am slowly learning that energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to you from seeing the other good things in life. I am slowly learning that I am not going to be everyone's cup of tea and I won't be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated and that's okay. I am slowly learning that trying so hard to "win" anyone is just a waste of time and energy and it fills you with nothing but emptiness.
I am slowly learning that not reacting does not mean I am okay with things, it just means I am choosing to take the lesson it has served and learn from it. I am choosing to be the bigger person. I am choosing my peace of mind because that's what I truly need. I do not need more dramas. I do not need people making me feel like I am not good enough. I do not need fights and arguments and fake connections. I am slowly learning that sometimes not saying anything at all says everything.
I am slowly learning that reacting to things that upset you gives someone else power over your emotions. You cannot control what others do but you can control you respond, how you handle it, how you perceive it andf how much of it you want to take personally. I am slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about you and a lot about the other person. I am slowly learning that maybe all these disappointments are just there to teach us how to love ourselves because that will be the armor and shield we need against the people who try to bring us down. They will save us when people try to shake our confidence or when they try to make us feel like we are worthless.
I am slowly learning that even if I react, it will not change anything, it willl not make people suddenly love and respect me, it will not magically change their minds. Sometimes it is better to just let things be, let people go, do not fight for closure, do not ask for explainations, do not chase answers and do not expect people to understand where you are coming from. I am slowly learning that life is better lived when you do not center it on what is happening around you and center it on what is happening inside you instead. Work on yourself and your inner peace and you will come to realise that little thing that bothers you is the first ingredient to living a happy and healthy life.
