I can hear the devastation in your writing over the loss of two brothers.
There is another kind of loss that is slow agony. It involves my older sister who was diagnosed with the onset of dementia 2 years ago. the rest of the family is being tortured by her slow collapse into being vague, afraid of the unknown and forgetting everything, sometimes minutes after it has happened. We suspect that it is full blown Alzheimers now.
We as a family support her on every level. the physical care is the least of it.
The tears come as I see her fumbling for memories of today but thankfully she still remembers stories and history of time long gone.
Her sweet nature persists and I am grateful.