Very interesting discussion, @denmarkguy.
You actually observe the related phenomena very well.
Allow me to join you here.

Even when we are in line with a group of photos, the first thing we look for is our own photo. Is that also a narcissist?

I think the time has come for an increasingly open world with the presence of social media. can't be denied right? Everyone will take part there, to show themselves.

When one tries intensely to show one's existence, it is still natural. Social media has changed all of us. But, when someone tries to bring down other people and has bad consequences for others, that's where the "distraction" should be labeled.
Have a nice day