More and more people around the world are meeting through the Internet. This is because we do not have time for meetings and live communication. Total employment has engulfed everyone: we learn, we work a lot, we hurry to consolidate our position in society in a crazy rhythm of life, we lead an eventful life. But ... We do not have time to pause, look around us and find that, in essence, despite our active social position, we are alone. It turns out that for the daily running for money and success, we do not have enough time for personal life. And here technical progress in the form of the Internet comes to the rescue. Various social networks and dating sites promise to give us the opportunity to find old friends, get new ones and find a soul mate.
Is it good or bad? Probably, it’s good in the sense that even the most lonely person in this world will be able to feel a little less lonely with the help of such Internet resources. Another thing, if the "friends" such as "Facebook" and virtual communication overshadow the whole real world.
One way or another, this article will not discuss the harm and benefits of social networks, only the probability of building real relationships using the Internet.
If a person is looking for friends - yes, in this case, the Internet can be a good helper. Interest groups, various fan clubs, hobbies - the choice is unlimited. Indeed, you can make friends with people who have the same hobby, meet with them in the "real" at various events and have full-fledged relationships with their own kind.
As for love, the possibility of finding a life partner through the Internet is much more complicated here. Is it possible the birth of real feelings between people who, say, never touched each other, communicating only via the Internet? You can, for example, communicate with a person via Skype, and thus compensate for the lack of eye-to-eye contact; make sure you are talking to a real person, and not with some kind of picture. But, sitting in front of a computer screen, you will not see how a person behaves in different situations, and it is hard to know what kind of person he is.
So, what you can get by getting to know and making relationships through the Internet:
1) information about what a person likes or dislikes, about his hobbies, activities, etc .;
2) the idea of a person’s appearance and ability to hold (using a webcam);
3) eye contact.
Now, about what you can not get from communication on the Internet:
1) tactile contact, which is important: how else would you know if your man is or not without even touching him? Indeed, at first glance, relying on communication, it may suit you completely, but ... It seems that this is definitely “yours”, but you touch a person and ... you don’t feel anything: no “current”, a quickened heartbeat. What kind of love is this?
2) also on Skype you will not learn about the veracity of the words of your counterpart; about his personality, inclinations, etc. The life story may turn out to be fictional, the merits are exaggerated, and the flaws, on the contrary, are thoroughly disguised.
It is possible to argue that when you meet a person "live", at the beginning of your acquaintance you also know nothing about his past, character, habits. Yes, this is true: any new relationship, tied either through the Internet or in life, is fraught with a lot of unknown. So in both cases, your elect may lie about himself and present himself first as a different person than he really is. But, you see, in a real meeting (meetings) it is easier for you to “see through” him by habits and manners, behavior in general.
Summarizing, we can conclude that dating through the Internet is a good idea. Only, getting acquainted on Internet sites in order to find love, it is better not to limit ourselves to communication at the computer and transfer meetings to the “real” one. Thus, you will save yourself from unnecessary disappointments and will be able to develop a full-fledged relationship. At the initial stage of dating, communication via the Internet saves time, it is only important not to delay the transition of virtual relations to real ones. If you, of course, want to find love, and not just a partner in correspondence.
As for whether it is realistic to find your soul mate using the Internet. There are many people in the world who are brought together, for example, a dating site. They live, meet, create families and happy relationships along with other people who met in the “usual” way: somewhere at work or in a cafe. The point is not how people find each other, but how they build their relationships. Here it is important to be able to open up and not hide behind stereotypes.
One of these stereotypes is strong in the minds of many: on sites they are looking for dating only in something of inferior people. Or a person with a bunch of complexes, or cripples any, even with disabilities - in short, outcasts. Many people think, they say, something with a person is clearly “not so”, since he is not able to find a pair for himself in the usual way, in his environment. This is a complete nonsense! In fact, the Internet is just one more way to the same people who walk the streets. Just this way is more concise, accessible and extensive. And people who register on dating sites have the opportunity to quickly and easily find what they want. The Internet for finding partners is mainly used by people who are very busy in everyday life and physically do not have the time to go to the theaters (restaurants, concerts), to look for their love. It can also be shy people who find it easier to meet a person they like via the Internet than somewhere on the street. In a word, there are a lot of people for whom the Internet serves as an assistant in matters of the heart, and they are by no means flawed. Therefore, there is no reason to prejudice dating online.
Another thing is that in the world wide web, as, indeed, on the streets, there are crooks who are ready to use gullible girls and women for personal gain. For example, there are individuals who scour in search of sexual slaves, "wallets" and so on. How not to fall for such subjects will be written below.
When registering on a dating site and filling out your profile, remember: what goes on the Internet never disappears from it. Therefore, be careful with the personal information you provide about yourself. It does not cost much to talk about your financial situation and other opportunities: this risks attracting money hunters and gigolos. Do not post a lot of photos on your profile. Enough two neutral (in the lap of nature, etc.), where you can see. Frank, "piquant" photos should not be on your page at all, if you do not want to provoke a stream of unambiguous offers or, what's worse, your photos are "walking" on pornographic resources of the Internet.
Of course, search for a sexual partner is not forbidden: on many dating sites there is a graph where you can directly indicate that you need a person just for bed relations. But if you are looking for love, want to meet or start a family - do not write about sex, even for fun: you will be misinterpreted. To make other users of the site aware of their intentions, select a column like: “to create real relationships”.
In the questionnaire you can tell in detail about your hobbies, qualities for which your friends appreciate you, indicate your credo, etc. Make the description of yourself interesting, but not overly frank - why, you already understood. Be sure to indicate who you are looking for and what characteristics a person should have. Get ready for what you will write many. Indecent, and also messages not "on a subject" not a rarity on dating sites. Ignore anything not related to what you are looking for.
When there was a person who interested you - do not rush to act. First, carefully read his profile, pay attention to the photo. You should be alerted if the photo looks like a picture (too unnatural, edited, indistinct). Also, the "licked" biography raises doubts about whether the real person is behind all this? Many guys with dubious intentions create such an image of an ideal man on dating sites, thus luring inexperienced, in the sense of selection of applicants for the hand and heart, of women. Remind yourself that the “picture” of love will not give you, unlike a living earthly person.
If the information in the questionnaire does not cause you suspicion, then start a correspondence. Immediately do not agree to the meeting, even if you have the impression that this is love at first sight. A few days of correspondence will be enough, and then do not pull with a real date, as "live" communication is incomparable. Feeling that this person you like more and more, agree to see. For safety net for the first time, arrange to meet at a place familiar to you, not too late. Next ... Time of miracles and magic! “Soak”, heart beat faster when you look at him? This is it, Feeling! Who, having felt it on himself, dares to say that love through the Internet will not find? Everything happens, just do not be afraid to search and try.
Of course, one should not expect too much from dating sites. It happens that you can not get acquainted with your favorite person, or no one at all is suitable. From the first time you can be disappointed to see the wrong person whom you first imagined. The main thing you need to understand is that success or failure in using dating sites depends on you, on your perception. It is important not to create some image in your head, judging only by communication on the Internet. Seeing a person "alive", you can unpleasantly marvel at the inconsistency of the fictional "picture" with the original. His voice will be different than you imagined, or the way you dress, or some other trifle. Your grandfather can also come to the meeting, figuratively speaking: the photo in his questionnaire was delivered 10 years ago, it turns out ...
Treat such situations with humor, but do not put an end to attempts to find love.
You can rephrase the famous saying: "The ways of love are inscrutable." Who knows, maybe your “half” is somewhere out there, on the vast expanses of the Internet?
