Therefore, discarding the lie, speak truth each one with his neighbor; because we are members of one another. Ephesians 4:25
When the words with which you are spoken bring sweetness, softness, teaching and above all love, even if they seem hard, they are assimilated and cause the effect that was intended when they were issued.
But if instead they are words full of anger and bitterness and they are also shouted in our face, they are very true that they only cause pain, little understanding and almost always a negative reaction and contrary to what you want to try to say. , in addition to sowing resentment and desire for revenge.
There are people who call themselves very sincere and transparent, and they are among those who say: I tell the truth to anyone in their face, not knowing that there are truths that hurt, that the way in which they are said destroys in such a way , that the person to whom he is told would like never to have heard them, so he ends up abhorring the person.
People when they are spoken nice understand, but if they shout or mistreat you, they get scared and things get worse, so "speak nice".
This was the philosophy, if the term is right, with which Jesus spoke to the people, the same that is written in the bible, we do not see a Jesus shouting to any of the Pharisees, scribes or priest, although the words he said to them, they provoked anger in them and desires to kill him (Luke 6:11), this had to be kept, because none of them had lacked respect.
Speaking in this way he conquered the Samaritan woman, (John 4: 16-30) even though he announced his sins and that he lived with a man who was not her husband, she recognized him as a prophet and believed in him and went to look for others. to be heard
This same form is what Jesus wants us to use in our relationships with others, not in vain did he give us the new commandment to love our neighbor as ourselves. Know our Lord well that if you love someone you will never hurt him, not even in words.
Relations with the family, husband, wife and children, parents like the rest of the people and the brothers of the faith, have to be marked by that beautiful talk that our Lord Jesus Christ taught us and we will be sure, that if there is any difference will all be resolved in peace and harmony.
GOD bless you greatly.
