I sometimes lose my patience when it comes to dealing with my little one's tantrums. I am just lucky I married a wonderful man who can tolerate my son's meltdowns and always reminds me to keep my cool but when he keeps on having this ear-shattering screams, add the punching and kicking and scratching on my face especially in the public area when trying to pacify him is kind of embarrassing and awkward that sometimes keeps my temper out of control too. Pretty draining.
Ibalik ta timo kar on sa busong ko!
I will return you to my womb!
These are the words I often mumble when my son throws a temper tantrum. And from there, my hero husband enters the scene, always to the rescue.
Here I listed down SOME WAYS TO TAME AND DEAL with little one's TANTRUMS in public areas with the help of my husband:
If the situation gets frustrating, take deep breathes.
Speak softly and ask what your child wants. Control your emotions. Don't let your child's tantrums get into you.
Speak in a soothing voice. Yelling, pointing a finger and threatening your child won't do any good. Chances are, your child will just get wilder. This is what I observe when dealing my son. The more I yell at him, the more he screams.
Give your child something to play with while in their stroller. They also get bored while just sitting in their strollers doing nothing. Bring their favorite toys. I always make sure I bring my son's favorite lolo lion, a stuffed toy lion when going out. It helps him calms down during his meltdowns.
It's awkward having a screaming child in tow while doing your shopping that's why mall restroom is my bestfriend. We squeezed ourselves in a cubicle and allow him to scream as he might while hugging him until he calms down. Sometimes a screaming child only wants attention that can only be stopped if you are in a private area. Explain to your child that he can cry as long as he wants while in there. Saves yourself from embarrassment too.
If diversions are not working, try carrying your child. I do carry my 17-months old and 30 lbs son for a good 10 minutes while shopping. It buys you time sometimes. My husband bought a carrier for our toddler to support us when carrying him during our outside walks and shopping. You never know when your child's tantrums gonna start.
Parents are the safest place to let your child emotions out. Explain to them that their behavior is not acceptable. If hug works for us adults, this definitely works with our children too. It helps relieves anxiety and stress. So next time your toddler throws tantrums, try to give him a comforting hug. Maybe they just simply want your affection.
Thank you for reading.
