as a civilian, you can't really do much, for example if you are ukrainian, they will come pick you up from your home and send you to the front, if you dont want, you get shoot...

This wouldn't happen in Austria, Germany or even US. I think the citizens allow themselves to have zero electorate power, or perhaps the system of government doesn't allow democratic inclusion. It's crazy how these countries seems to be in 1950, and allow themselves to be pawns in games like this.

As for the middle Eastern oil production countries, they can just do trade alliances, instead of wanting to solely control it. I mean why would you want to control something that's technically not yours? These wars are crazy, and even worse for innocent people in these countries