It's so true, Alex, in my life as well. I remember my first meeting with Robert, a true life-long friend, and feeling both drawn and repulsed. Maybe that dichotomy creates the sense of it being unreal, uncomfortable and makes us skeptical. With Robert, I fixated on this great coat he was wearing that he bought from an army surplus store. I thought he was too bohemian for my taste. Superficial much? Yeah, I'm embarrassed to admit.