I'm going to risk alienating or boring you, my friend. But this is where I'm at. I don't put much stock in mere human wisdom. Freud said we're tripartite : Ego, super ego and Id. The Bible says we're tripartite too - we're a spirit possessing a soul in a physical body. With the body we have authority over the physical world. With the soul we contact the world of ideas and with the spirit we are able to discern spiritual things. How do I sort out the heart and soul? For me it's easy because I'm a believer and I trust in God's revelation in the scriptures - the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two edged sword, piercing until it divides soul from spirit, joints from marrow; it is able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart. I have a plumb line to at least be able to judge right from wrong and what is carnal and truly spiritual and loving. For those who don't believe I always ask them what is your authority? Is it Oprah, the Supreme Court, Psychiatry, Philosophy or your own gut? Yeah...it all comes down to authority. Everyone's under somebody's influence all of the time.