We are all here to help each other get through this thing called life. If you see someone in need of something you help with what you can. But when is helping someone turned into enabling them to keep doin what they are doin.
I don't mind throwing someone a couple bucks here and there. I hope they use it to get something to eat and not booze or drugs. I figure once I give some money to someone in need, it's on them to do the right thing with it.
This happened when I was in Fresno California. This guy would be at the stop sign asking for $$ or cigarettes. So I would give him a couple bucks here and there and maybe some smokes( I was smoking then but not anymore). Then when I was out working to fix a power outage I saw the guy walking. He had a big nice puffy coat, and in front of him, in his hands was a HUGE wad of cash. I wanted to pull over right then and confront the guy but I was in my bucket truck and was responding to an outage. Let's just say he never got another penny from me.
Now here where I currently live the city fenced off an area for the homeless people to stay. To keep them off the streets. Sound good doesn't it. Sure it does, until people start bringing stacks of pizzas every night, gathering up their clothes and doin their laundry, cutting fire wood for them. What would make these people want to better their lives. Seems they are getting taken care of very well. It's almost like having a maid/butler. I watched a guy in his 70's chop wood, while one "homeless man" sat and watched. Then once the cart was loaded, the homeless man wheeled it into their camp.
I totally understand your trying to help but damn!! Drop the wood and make them do something. Ever thought that might be the reason they are where they are? Helping or enabling?? People consistently giving them hand outs, and they have no clue how to do anything for themselves.
This sort of thing happens all to often with parents that have children hooked on drugs. They give them money, because they love them. Cook them food, do their laundry let them live in your house even though they are plenty old enough to get a place of their own, because they love them. Bail them out of jail, because they love them. As a perent I get that you want to help them but I feel there is a fine line here between helping and enabling. Granted every situation differs in some degree. Let them spend a few nights in jail and see how they like it. My parents did that to me and let me tell you what. I don't ever want to go back.
It seems as though nobody wants to take responsibility for their actions. Many try to blame where they are at in life on someone or something other than themselves.
I consider myself as a giver. The Bible says "if you have, you should give." That could be money, advice, encouragement, love, or a helping hand. Just remember that helping can turn into enabling without one even noticing it. So don't stop helping just stop enabling.
God is love!!
Sorry for the rambling but I often times have a hard time getting to the point. ADD ?!?!? 🤔🤔🤔
STEEM ON my friends!!
