Bouquet of flowers, chocolates, balloons, these were the only few things that flooded my feed last February 14. One of the few sweet gestures to celebrate Valentine's Day.
How about those who haven't gotten any gifts on Valentine's Day? Does that mean they are not loved?
Love is a language, that in order for you to communicate with people and to understand it, you need to know the language they speak. Love like language, has a different dialects, different accent and different paces, it depends how the feeling is communicated. And is unique to each person.
I'd like to introduce to you the 5 Languages of Love. These are the 5 ways of how love is communicated;
1. Words of Affirmation
The most powerful communication of Love. It's the mostly utilized language, the most powerful one. It is the expression of love in words, telling someone how beautiful they are, how much you love them, telling that someone that they are perfect enough for you.
Verbal compliments is the best example of this language. Do you remember the feeling of being appreciated? I appreciate it whenever I'm appreciated, when someone recognizes what I do. These compliments should be expressed genuinely and have kind and encouraging message of what your partner loves and wants. And most importantly reminding them that you love them.
Based on observation, majority of women dig for this kind of love language, they prefer to be praise and appreciated in public.
2. Quality time
Spending quality time with your love, just simply being present, not just physically but mentally. Common challenge that hinders us from spending quality time is the over use of devices, instead of spending time to talk about life plans, most of us spend more time in social media, games and other from of gadgets. Are you guilty of this?
Disconnecting yourselves from the toxic social media may help, planning an adventure away from the city and unplugging yourself from the internet, sometimes can be a little helpful. Or doing interesting activities with your special someone.
3. Gifts
Yes, providing gifts is another way to express love. It doesn't necessarily mean anything expensive, nor materialistic. It is finding something beautiful that tailors the wants of your partner. Like writing a poem, a song, or other forms of surprises. Showing that individual that you thought of them when you bought those meaningful gifts.
4. Meaningful Acts of Service
These are the things you do for a person, it requires your effort and energy. Like your partner doing even the simplest house chore is already a form of service. For guys fetching their girlfriends from the office is another example. Anything that is done for your partner proactively and voluntarily is a from of meaningful acts of service.
Majority of wives and mothers have this as their primary love language.
Is communicating love in a physical way. Making love is the best example, but it's not just only about making love. Hugging, rubbing hands, running your hands through your partner's hair, gentle touch, a pat on their back , and kissing are some of the good examples of physical touch.
So don't get sad if you haven't received any gifts for Valentine's , maybe your partner prefers a different Love language.
It is believed that the implementation of these five love languages can strengthen your relationship with your partner. If you find your relationship not working out or is getting kinda boring try expressing these love languages I'm sure it'll have a positive impact.
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