Life cannot be a bed of roses all the time. Sometimes bad things happen, and sometimes good things happen. Sometimes, the bad and the good things that happen are a result of the decisions we make, and that is because we cannot always be on the right track when it comes to making decisions. We are only trying to beat it, but it can never work completely. That is why we are always admonished not to make decisions based on our emotional state. This admonition appears very simple, but putting it into practice is very difficult, and that is because man (human beings) is an emotional entity.
I have had my fair share of the backlash that comes with making decisions based on emotions, and I hope I am able to reduce it as I live on.
Some years back, I traveled home from school for a holiday. On that particular day, one of my female siblings ran into the house in the evening with her face roughened. When we asked her what was wrong, she said her boyfriend had been beating her. At that moment, my anger rose to the fullest.
I could not contain it, and I did not even realize when I took off and ran straight to the guy’s family house. As soon as the guy saw me, he ran off. I picked up a piece of firewood nearby and threw it toward him. Unfortunately, the stick hit his mother, who was trying to hold me back. She fell to the ground and held her head, which had started bleeding.
At that moment, my anger drastically reduced. I, along with some other people in the compound, rushed the woman to a nearby chemist shop, where she was treated and the bleeding was stopped. The bandage that was put on her head was massive. We were still there when my dad arrived at the scene, and alongside him, we started pleading with the elderly woman, thanking God she did not die because she was quite aged. In that moment, we completely skipped the case of my sister, who had been slapped by the guy, and focused instead on the well-being of the elderly woman.
Although what the guy did, slapping my sister, was wrong, I overreacted. I allowed anger to decide for me. Imagine if the woman had died in the process. I am sure I would have been arrested. I was questioned by everyone for going after the guy like that without first calming down to think of a simpler way to handle the situation. Suggestions were made, such as using the police to arrest the guy instead of going for a fight, among others.
I regretted hitting the elderly woman. I regretted that I did not get to meet the guy with such anger. But even with all that, I felt a little bit fulfilled because my action served as a warning to anyone who might have been thinking of doing such a thing to my family member.
In the end, my sister also received her fair share of the blame for blindly dating such a guy who was involved in domestic violence. The guy came to plead afterwards but that was the end of the relationship.
Thank You!
