If you criticize it, it doesn't sound good to you, but someone who criticizes you is worthy of deep friendship. Because he dares to criticize you, he really wants you to become better.
批评的话，听上去不好听，但是会批评你的人，值得深交一辈子。因为敢批评你的人，他是真的希望你变得更好。
I used to hate people who criticized me. Because those words sound harsh, I always feel that people are targeting me. They just can't see me.
曾经我很讨厌批评我的人，因为那些话听上去很刺耳，总觉得人家在针对我，他们就是见不得我好。
I always refute their criticism and refuse to admit it. Or to admit it, but refuse to repent.
我总会反驳他们的批评，拒不认错。或者勇于承认，但是拒不悔改。
It may be natural to recognize that you do not listen to bad words, like to listen to good words, and find 100 excuses to justify yourself.
可能认得天性就是听不进坏话，喜欢听好话，会找一百个借口来为自己辩解。
But later came to realize that no one would say unpleasant words to a person with a very general relationship and a very shallow friendship. Will not tell your face to tell where you are doing well, where it is worth improving.
但是后面才慢慢认识到：没有一个人会为一个关系一般，交情很浅的人说让人讨厌的话。不会贴着脸来告诉你哪儿做的不好，哪儿值得改进。
Only people who are really good will do such unpleasant things
只有真正为你好的人才会做这种不讨人喜欢的事情。
Gorky once said such a paragraph:
曾经高尔基说过这样的一段话：
True friends, when you are successful, are happy for you instead of supporting you. When you experience misfortune or sadness, it will give you timely support and encouragement. When you have shortcomings that may make mistakes, it will give you correct criticism and help. We should ask our friends like this. This kind of friendship is truly valuable.
真正的朋友，在你获得成功的时候，为你高兴，而不捧场。在你遇到不幸或悲伤的时候，会给你及时的支持和鼓励。在你有缺点可能犯错误的时候，会给你正确的批评和帮助。我们应该这样要求自己的朋友，这样的友谊才是真正可贵的。
There are many people who come and go in your life. Some people will accompany you for a long time. Some people will only accompany you for a while. There aren't a few that can always go with you.
在你的生命中来来往往的人很多，有些人会陪你很久，有些人只会陪你走一段路。能一直和你走到老的没有几个。
Some people will not criticize you. Some people will not refute you. Some people will only flatter you. They will not give you advice and help in your life.
有些人不会批评你，有些人不会反驳你，有些人只会奉承你。他们并不会在你的人生道路上给你建议和帮助。
Only those who dare to criticize you are worthy of deep friendship.
只有那些敢于批评你的人才是值得你深交的人。
They will guide you in the right direction when you are on the wrong path, and they will remind you when you make a wrong choice. Sometimes they are the guides in your dilemma.
他们会在你走错路的时候指引正确的方向，他们会在你做错选择的时候提醒你，他们有时会是你困境中的引路人。
Criticism and opinion are a kind of “adversity”. To truly “pull down the face” to criticize a person and criticize one thing is to trust and expect the critics. It also highlights the magnanimity, openness and sincerity of the critics. To treat people's excellent qualities, such people make mentors and friends in our lives.
批评和意见是一种“忠言逆耳”，真正要做到“拉下脸”去批评一个人，批评一件事，是对被批评者的信任和寄予期待，也彰显出批评者的胸怀坦荡、光明磊落和真诚待人的优秀品质，这样的人使我们人生中的良师益友。
